Would You Be Speaking To My Friend In My Situation?

[abbeylee90]

Basically she become friends with one of my friends through me so she asks her what date are we out for her birthday but when I mention mine she says she can't commit to a night out in advance and this was in March today the she says I didn't tell her to book it off and her rota for my may is done and I'm very angry as we been friend over 10 years also when I was with my ex she told me to stay in touch with my friend as I won't have no one if we split well she going the same way.

[MargoTester]

For goodness sake July is a long time away, things could change by then. You can't brood on it for that length of time surely, concentrate on your other friends 

[abbeylee90]

Pasta my other friends won't know about it.

[pastafreak]

If you decide not to go in July your friends will most likely ask why. Will you give a fake reason...or tell the truth. You'll also run the risk of hurting the feelings of the friend whose birthday it is. See...this is where you make things far more complicated than they need to be.

[naomi24]

Abbey, forget it.  Just treat her as normal and don't mention it to her again.  You're angry and upset and you feel let down so it might take you a while to get over it - some people do that to all of us - but you can't make others into what you want them to be. 

[naomi24]

Pasta has hit on a good point.  If you don't go in July you'll be letting that friend down and in effect doing to her what your friend has done to you.  

[abbeylee90]

I would offer to do something with her but won't it be awkward if we not speaking for my other friend

[naomi24]

If you've got any sense you will be speaking to the other friend. 

[pastafreak]

Try to be mature and grown-up about this.

[abbeylee90]

Of course I'm speaking to my other friend

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, please look at your reply of 12.07 - you said you probably wouldn't go to another friend's 'do' if the pesky friend was going...

[naomi24]

Abbey, carry on talking to all your friends.

[abbeylee90]

Neveracrossword That why me and my other friend are fine.

[newmodarmy]

Abbey, try writung that again in a way that makes more sense please. 

[newmodarmy]

^writing!

[newmodarmy]

Are you fretting over this at work again? Are you on another break?

[abbeylee90]

Like naomi carry on talking to all my friends I'm fine with all of them apart from the one I'm asking about on this thread.

[scorpiojo]

Just let it go, Abbey. Please.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you will have to learn to let things like this go! You make life complicated for yourself and brood over things that should just be left alone.

[naomi24]

Abbey, I know you're fine with all of them except that one.  What I'm saying is stay on speaking terms with her too.  You don't have to be best buddies - just don't shut her out of your life completely.   If you do that, since you all know each other, you could make life awkward for yourself.  

[abbeylee90]

I'm not going to message her and I will keep the piece.