Should I Tell This Guy No Point Speaking If We Not Going To Meet Up?

[abbeylee90]

The guy I mentioned I like and met on pof should I tell him no point speaking if we not going to meet up as I'm going to be speaking to others anyway.

[Clementino]

NMA I know  it's the guy who wanted a sleepover.

[abbeylee90]

It is that guy and I told him yesterday I said no to sleep over as I don't feel I know him well enough.

[Clementino]

He should never have asked about a sleepover (sex) if he was only interested in friendship and not romance. 

He sounds a desperate person and I would ignore.

[newmodarmy]

Maybe I'm confused clementino. Maybe future threads could have titles that make it clearer "Should I Tell Beardy Guy " , Should I Tell too short Guy " Should I Tell sleepover Guy " etc

[Clementino]

NMA. It's not surprising, we all get confused as Abbey's threads often discuss other guys, other subjects, jobs, what to wear.....I am often confused.com 🤷‍♀️

[scorpiojo]

We're only hearing one side of the conversation. Perhaps Abbey has been messaging him and asking what he's doing this weekend.

[abbeylee90]

No Scorpio I told him I was out tomorrow last week and he said today I'm out tomorrow aren't I and he said yeah why he said ahh forgot what you were doing 

[newmodarmy]

If you're not interested, tell him. However the fact that you ate dwelling on every word of what others might see as a mundane exchange makes me think you're intrigued and either want to meet up or just enjoy the attention

[abbeylee90]

I did want to say 'what's it got to do with you'

[Clementino]

Abbey, I wish you had said that to him . ha

[abbeylee90]

I will haha or its my friends birthday so won't be happy with you turning up.

[Clementino]

Seriously, I have lost track (and possibly the plot) of where you are at i.e. messaging or not messaging, or told him you both should stop messaging, or agreed to stop messaging , or    ?

 

[abbeylee90]

He messaged me first today I told him yesterday no point in talking anymore 

[Clementino]

Perhaps he wanted to just turn up and see a shocked look on you ?  huh

[abbeylee90]

Well I only told him first place of where I'm going which is in afternoon so good luck for evening.

[Clementino]

He may find out if he's clever enough. 'Be prepared' is all I can say 

[abbeylee90]

He hasn't got me on social media

[Clementino]

That is irrelevant 

[abbeylee90]

He just messaged and said do I fancy a walk round the bay soon 

[Clementino]

You have already told us you are not meeting him, even as mates... You have been 'friend+zoned'

Your decision now