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fruitsalad | 13:49 Thu 30th Jan 2025 | Family & Relationships
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Has anyone else encountered this, with anyone, my OH and myself had a bit of an argument  yesterday, I said something he didn't like, since then he's not spoken to me never came to bed last night, slept on the sofa, and is still giving me the silent treatment, I just carry on as normal, and let him get on with it, but he's a 78 year old man acting like a 8 year old

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I know a couple where that happens the other way around.  She once went three months without saying more than was absolutely necessary.  It would drive me daft.  I just couldn't be bothered with it.  Go out and let him get on with it.

all things pass

you cd try the obvious - I am sorry.....

Suppose it might depend on what you said?

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Naomi, I do, I carry on as usual and let him get on with it, he's always been a big sulker, and it's usually me that gives way first, but I'm going to let him sweat a bit this time.

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Nothing really bad Haz, just that he doesn't help me, when it comes to reprimanding our Grandaughter 13 (because he wants to be seen as the good guy) he was the same with our own kids, so I'm the one dishing out the punishments, again, while he moans about the things to me shes doing wrong, but not to our Grandaughter or our Son, so I just told him he is a 2 faced hypocrite.

Hmm - glad I don't have such problems - kiss and make up? x

That's tough for you, and you probably don't need him sulking on top of everything. Get out of the house for a bit if you can, get away from it and distract yourself.

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I've been out shopping this morning, walked the dog this afternoon, he's still in same position on the sofa, with a face as long as a wet weekend.

If he's quite happy punishing himself, let him carry on. Don't say a word, don't even ask if he wants a cup of tea. (He wouldn't know which face to drink it with)

If you both eat meals at the table, carry on feeding as normal, just don't say a word.

They are annoying burgers at times x

Have you tried just saying, "How long are you going to keep this up?" 

Stick to your guns, fruit salad and I'd definitely go with alba's suggestions ....just carry on as if he isn't there.   They can be precious little so and so's at times and at his age he should have grown out of it.

My mother used to do that when I was quite small, and I grew up thinking that was the way to be. I did learn eventually that it wasn't! Just ignore him back like seekers says. It's silly childish behaviour.

When I experienced this in a previous lifetime I would book myself into a spa hotel. Absence really does make the heart grow less sulky 😉

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Alba, I have been making myself cups of tea and not even asking him, if he would like one, just made me feel as childish as him, :) I did make a meal, for all of us, because Grandaughter needed to eat, after school.

Curly what a brilliant idea, I could do with some pampering and relaxation, 

 

Khandro I know what the answer to that would be.

"As long as I want to" 

 

 

 

Me too, fruitsalad, I might just join you!

My dad's a sulker. My mum just ignores him and leaves him to stew.

My husband is in exploder, I am a sulker. I'm not very good at it though because I hate going to bed on argument. Like helly wellyI learnt to as a childFrom my mum as a way of expressing displeasure when you don't have the actual words for it

And I just realised that answer was any help at all really. I'm on the side of 'let him get on with it'

My late fil was a sulker.  She used to cajole him, try and humour him and all things to get him to come round until she gave up and let him get on with it. Their first born is my husband, I ignore him, take control of the remote (well, back in the day lol) Apple, tree proximity.

Enjoy the peace xx

She is my late mum in-law. 

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