i dont understand how you are going to decide when the time is "right" to go into care on somene elses behalf. Does that person have their faculties still? Cant they make a decision themselves?
There is nothing to saying that the ones doing the caring are any more right than the other ones. You think you are right, but so presumably does the other party, therefore its a bit presumptous to say the carer wants power of attourney to stop the other one getting their way, whats to stop it being the other way round, and the other one getting POA? plus, what about the person in all this? Perhaps they dont want to give that power to ANYONE!
Lastly on the subject of the house. It dosent belong to the parents, and therefore the ones who do own it are letting them stay there. ok so they will make money if they sell it on the death of the couple BUT they took a risk. House prices might not necassarily have gone up they could have been in a negative equity position, so they took a big risk and should be able to get the reward for tha