Re; last yrs xmas present from mum

[karmgirl]

She got me a trollbead bracelet which I love but a little while ago when me and my mum were talking about them (she has one too) my younger brother said 'oh didn't you get Sophie's free' and my mum said no and not to say things like that. Didn't think anything more of it until yesterday, got a newsletter from the jewellers she bought it from saying 'spend �40 or more and get free trollbead chain'. This made me think that my mum did get it freee so I asked her but she says she didn't and that it was expensive so I said that I would feel really let down if she was lying to me and she said she paid for it again so I said that I didn't even mind if she did get it free on a certain spend as long as she was telling me the truth.

Feel bad if I am totally wrong but its a bit of a coincidence as the free chain offer is in November and she got my bracelet in Nov last year - I've got the proof of purchase but there are other things on the receipt that were bought at the same time. Be so disappointed if my own mother had lied to me though

[karmgirl]

Thanks natalie.

It's just like if she had lied I gave her the opportunity to own up and said I didn't mind if she had and she still said no but it seems too much of a coincidence. ( I know I must sound really ungrateful) but I'm not.

I might ask my brother but then he probably know for sure - he'll just say I think so but nothing definite. Bloody brothers complicating matters - why did he have to say that!!!

They aren't $3000 - bracelets are �28.50 and glass beads are �19.50 and silver and gold ones more. www.fabletrading.co.uk is good site for them but you can't buy them offline. (from this site anyway)

Oh well I've said what I've said now and I feel bad that she might be hurt. Its done now though.

Once bought my mum some flowers in a basket too and thought she would reuse the basket once flowers had died and plant something else but I think shes binned it cus can't see it anywhere in her house. gr8!

4get - can't believe your nan did that

[4getmenot]

most of redcrx presents were out of cereal packets but what she doesnt know wernt hurt her...

[redcrx]

4get!!!!!!!!

[karmgirl]

redcrx - it was about 3 months ago that he said that so it can't be that he seen it this year.

Thanks everyone for your answers,

perhaps it was rude and perhaps I handled it wrong and I feel really terrible but I wish people on here wouldn't say nasty comments like that I'm ungrateful and rude because you don't know me and I am not ungrateful and rude. Perhaps I handled the situation wrong thats all so get off your bloody high horses#!!!

[karmgirl]

you wouldnt have asked because you wouldnt have known. When your brother said that you should have just said well it was a lovely present no matter how she paid for it. As I said it is a white lie. I know myself if someone questioned me about it being free I would say no

^posted by 4get



Next time I will handle it like this xx :-)

[4getmenot]

so you gave her oppurtunity to admit it and she still didnt so maybe just maybe she is telling the truth! why ask your brother??? What is the point? Does it really matter?

[redcrx]

if you have the reciept it would state if any items were free, theyd still be listed on there for stock control. They either say �0.00 or the price and then the price removed at end.

You have 2 options, either just ignore it and let it go now without saying anything, or apologise to your mum and say you dont care (only say it if you mean it though)

[yinyang]

Karmgirl, we talked a bit on your thread about people always getting the last word and i got the impression then - and more so now - that you only want to hear from people who agree with you. Maybe getting answers that back you up makes you feel justified in feeling that there is nothing wrong with you and everybody is out to get you in some way.
People are saying it's rude to ask how much a present cost because, well, it is rude. You said yourself you love the bracelet but by making this into a major issue you're not going to be able to wear it now without nagging doubts and it's a shame that you have spoiled something for yourself.
I read that you're going for counselling and I really hope it works out for you. It might not seem so now but the problems you're facing are very small in relation to the true crap life can throw at you and i really think you need to get yout head straightened out a bit. Good luck and take care.

[4getmenot]

ah posted that after you'd realised what you should have done. and yes my nan gave me back some perfume about a year later saying 'oooh I found this perfume not me at all someone must have bought it for me for xmas, do you want it'

[karmgirl]

No it doesn't matter now, an apology to mum probs wont make her feel better anyway, damage has been done

[funnygirl]

Regarding the present, it is the thought that counts.

But how she got the present, maybe she should have told you the truth. It is not nice being lied to and maybe she did not want to upset your feelings regarding the cost of the gift.

Let it go, life is too short and you have only got one mum.

[brenda]

Move on for goodness sake, just be satisfied that you got a present.Think of all the people in the world who never receive a gift from anyone at Christmas.
The issue of whether it was free or not is no big deal, you got a present .
And by the way have you never ever told the smallest lie , if indeed that was your Mum is doing.

[brenda]

Sorry- should be --if that is what your MuM is doing.!

[karmgirl]

The problem is yin yang that I don't feel I explain myself well enough I'm no good at explaining so when someone disagrees with me or doesn't understand why I done something, I feel its because I haven't explained myself properly and that they haven't got the full story or don't understand what I'm trying to say.

But there could also be an element of wanting people to agree with me to be justified - I'm not sure.

I can admit when I'm wrong though but I have to make sure people understand what I'm saying first and not getting the wrong end of the stick, once I'm sure they've got the right end of the stick and I think I'm wrong then I don't mind admitting I'm wrong!

[karmgirl]

I've handled it wrong!

Thanks everyone,

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[redcrx]

even if the damage has been done karmgirl if you feel sorry then you should apologise. It doesnt have to be dragged up again, just say sorry if youve hurt her feelings.

[Lil O'lady]

Can there be such a depth of human suffering?

[curiosity]

You think too much.