Re; last yrs xmas present from mum

[karmgirl]

She got me a trollbead bracelet which I love but a little while ago when me and my mum were talking about them (she has one too) my younger brother said 'oh didn't you get Sophie's free' and my mum said no and not to say things like that. Didn't think anything more of it until yesterday, got a newsletter from the jewellers she bought it from saying 'spend �40 or more and get free trollbead chain'. This made me think that my mum did get it freee so I asked her but she says she didn't and that it was expensive so I said that I would feel really let down if she was lying to me and she said she paid for it again so I said that I didn't even mind if she did get it free on a certain spend as long as she was telling me the truth.

Feel bad if I am totally wrong but its a bit of a coincidence as the free chain offer is in November and she got my bracelet in Nov last year - I've got the proof of purchase but there are other things on the receipt that were bought at the same time. Be so disappointed if my own mother had lied to me though

[4getmenot]

is it more about your mum lying or that it was free? Its the thought that counts and really nothing is free, if it was spend so much get it free she still had to spend that much. Bit like 3 presents for 2 at boots does that mean you cant give the free one to anyone?

[karmgirl]

No I realise that she still had to spend a certain amount (albeit on trollbeads for herself) to get the bracelet, but its not the fact of it being free its more the fact that I'm worried shes lied to me

[daffy654]

You could look at it like she paid for your bracelet but kept the free one for herself.

[sara3]

mother's are strange things, karmgirl. depending on her age, I'd just let it go.

my mum gives me some right old crap for birthdays and Christmas. just be grateful she thought of you and if you like the gift, it's a bonus.

don't let it eat away at you x

(no idea what a trollbead bracelet is!)

[ChuckFickens]

^ glad it's not just me that has no idea what one is!

[bednobs]

oh for god's sake get over it! Your mum has told you she paid for it, on more than one occasion (personally i think it was rude in the extreme to ask her anyway: ungrateful wench!) you evven have proof of purchase yet you still disbelieve her. You are never going to find out if she has lied, so why torture yourself and carry on thinking badly of your mum? you are really lucky to have her so let it go!!!!

i sound harsh but i really really think you need a reality check here!

[daffy654]

Haha,I don't know what one is either but didn't want to look daft by saying so.:-)

[karmgirl]

If my little brother hadn't said anything a while ago and she hadn't denied it then, and then I got this newsletter I wouldn't have even mentioned it to her - I would have thought oh maybe mum got that deal last year for me but I wouldn't have brought it up because she wouldn't have (possibly) lied to me if my brother hadn't mentioned it there was no need to say anything at the time of giving me the present cus like you say its the thought that counts.

It seems a bit of a coincidence that both my 13 year old brother said to my mum didn't you get that free and then I get this offer in the post as well.

I've got the proof of purchase/guaratee but it doesn't say the amount on it, there are four items on there, the chain, the lock for the chain, a duckling bead which she got me and another bead that must be for herself and the number of times the card was tendered matches the number of items bought

[ChuckFickens]

http://www.olingerdiamond.com/trollbeads.htm

[Sgt.Rock]

Not the worst "lie" in the world, if indeed it was a little fib.

Perhaps be thankful she got you something, so what if it was free?

[daffy654]

Oooh,I just googled them and they are rather pretty.I want one now! lol
http://www.trollbeadbracelets.com/content/cate gory.cfm?sessionid=899080408101023918&site_id= 5&category_id=165

[Sgt.Rock]

daffy, I'll spend 40 quid and get one for free for you.

[karmgirl]

I'm not ungrateful for it or bothered even if it was free, I'm just bothered that my mum might have lied to me

Till receipts aren't always right either, even though card tendered matches the amount of items bought it might just be that the till can't print it any other way.

Anyways, I am not ungrateful, I love the gift, and if I am wrong about this I am deeply sorry for saying what I have to my mum, but because I was suspicious I thought it best to get it out in open. Trust me I already feel terrible that I might have really hurt her feelings

[4getmenot]

Ok put yourself in your mums shoes 'IF' she did get it free if you were asked wouldnt you say no too and also if I was asked I would be quite shocked you were even asking me in first place and a bit hurt that you were even thinking about how I paid for it.

[4getmenot]

its a white lie to keep you happy, It was last year and you shouldnt look too much into it. dont worry my nan gave me back a xmas present I had bought her lol

[natalie_1982]

Karmgirl, I can totally understand what you are saying - I, too, would be more upset at the thought that my mum had lied to me than the fact that she got it for free.

Have you spoken to your brother about it? Maybe he will be able to put you right?

(Did I read that link right? Are they like $3000?)

[karmgirl]

I would be a bit hurt but I can't say whether I would have said it was free or not unless i'm in that sitaution.

Maybe I should have just left it and not said anything, and I would have done if it hadn't been for my younger brother blurting that out. If he hadn't said that I wouldn't have even asked. And when I got the newsletter I might have thought she might have got it as a deal but I wouldn't have minded or even asked. Its the fact that my brother saying that and getting the newsletter seems a coincidence that makes me think shes lying.

[jno]

I can't think of anything more upsetting than giving a gift and then having the recipient demand to know how much I paid for it. How rude can you get?

If you don't like the bracelet, throw it away. If you like it keep it. Because it is a gift, how much it cost is none of your business and your mother was well within her rights to tell you anything she liked. As you don't believe her anyway, I don't blame her for a moment.

[redcrx]

what if your brother has seen the offer this year and thinks thats what happened last year?
or hes just saying it as he knows how youll react, lets face it you do have a great tendancy on here to come across as having a paranoid personality and over analyze things

[4getmenot]

you wouldnt have asked because you wouldnt have known. When your brother said that you should have just said well it was a lovely present no matter how she paid for it. As I said it is a white lie. I know myself if someone questioned me about it being free I would say no