Re:How do you cope with ad eatth of a loved one

[topten]

To Ruby27, Ummmm, Coccinell,mamyalynne nd drisgril thank you all for your kind words and for eachof you I can relate to with the anger resentment seeing other people happy, fro me it is noticing women that look my mum's age yet they are still alive.

[sara3]

topten, the world carries on when you feel like it should have stopped. good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people.

it's not fair, and you're allowed to feel however you feel x

[Drisgirl]

Aww thats one of the sidekicks -the anger that someone is still alive and to your mind they shouldnt be.

I see 50yr men and they booze heavily have heart attacks smoke and generally take life for granted and that makes me so mad -but when your time is up its up -I am a fatalist and i firmly belive my card has been marked.

I know you will be able to learn to live with this terrible tragedy -we have all in our own ways and none of us are unique.Its called hiuman instinct and the will to survive and you will xxxx

[Curly13]

I'm so sorry to read of your loss. My Mum died of breast cancer six months before I got married and I have never felt so bitter and angry about anything in my life. I also remember going back to work and wandering what the hell people were doing carry on as normal....didn't they realise my Mum had just died??? I expected the world to stop. But it doesn't.

You do eventually come to terms with it, even though it feels like you never will in the early days. But also don't hold in your grief, if you need to cry, scream or shout then do.

My thoughts are with you Ruby, just take things one step at a time, and although you never stop missing them, you will get to a stage where you will be able to smile and laugh when you think of them instead of feeling so sad x

[ummmm]

That's how I fely topten. My Dad was only 59 and I just use to think WHY...Grief is selfish...and so it should be. I still talk about him likes he's still here and sometimes I actually forget that he's dead.

My Dad was a very popular man in this town and one of my fears is that people would forget him. I don't think it's going to happen now as they have started a yearly golf tornament in his name/memory and to raise money for cancer.

That's comforting...