Boyfriends mum is a fruit loop and an absolute nightmare!!!

[CAJ1]

My boyfriends mum definitly has something wrong with her...not quite sure what but she's not all there. We go to see her twice a week because she has no one else really and I think my boyfriend feels responsible for her. At the weekend she said she had a sore throat (again), my boyfriend and I caught each others eye and smiled, she is always complaining about something. She caught us smiling and went ballistic, swearing at us and then she proceeded to try and bring up everything possible to hurt her son and provoke a reaction. She does this on a regular basis and it is really p*ssing me off. I think the best thing is for me to tell her that I will not be going up to see her anymore because I was on the verge of telling her exactly what I thought at the weekend. The other weekend she told my boyfriend he was a drunken mistake and that his dad wanted him aborted, she tells him she wishes he was six feet dead and buried, she can flip out in seconds.

I have also said to my boyfriend that when we eventually have children I will not be allowing her to look after them by herself because I don't want her talking to my children in the same way she talks to him and flipping out on them. I also caught her about to kick the dog recently because she was in a bad mood which doesn't fill me with confidence.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how we can all live in harmony? I understand as bad as she is, she is my boyfriends mother and I do not want to make things awkward for him but I cannot put up with this anymore!!!

[treborrobert]

yes i cope the best way i can i am dislexic but i cope i write how it sounds and not how it is spelt.....some take the Fosters and most understand.....i am not stupid or thick as some think when they read what i put....you have probly notest i can be too forwards with my replys...thats just me i just say what i feel.....that some do not except and think i am just getting kicks out of it .... i am not.. i only reply to each comment that is said good or bad and i do liston to others if i step out of line and say sorry... but if cornered i react defensive...sorry if i was to forwards on your comments

[CAJ1]

No problem, we will forget any cross words! :)

Spelling would be a lot easier if we all just spelt things like they sounded lol. I do try to understand my boyfriends mum and I would never make fun of someone with a learning disability, yes I smiled but it wasn't in a malicious way, it was more in a way knowing way. I try my hardest with her its just we all get to the end of our tether eventually.

[treborrobert]

i feel sorry for your bf ..he is in a no win situation..and you see his mother treat him like a fool with no feelings ...... so that would test anyone to the brake of saying ... "who the hell do you think you are talken to " ! ... lol

i think you are doing the right thing and keeping away... and if your bf also keeps away then she is left to dwell on hear own mistakes.... after all he is not a kid anymore...in the future she knows were he is...and you said he feals responserble... i say..... he neads to think of himself before she draggs him down to her level......good luck.......and hope everything turns out ok

[CAJ1]

Thanks for the reply treborroert.

I feel sorry for him too, it must be hard for him to hear his mother wishing him dead and buried especially if she was saying it to him as a child. We went up on Monday after staying away for 2 weeks and she was being nice so I think she may have learnt a little lesson. I agree he needs to think about himself and live his own life, I don't want him looking back and feeling he missed out because of her. I'm sure he'll keep on visiting her, maybe when he has his own family he'll feel more responsibility to them than her.