Would you want to know?

[4getmenot]

My blokes mum left when he was young, he has never really wanted anything to do with her. His younger brother has seen her a few times as they've grown up. Anyway I went out drinking saturday night and bumped into his brother and he started pouring his heart out about his mum and how he wish he'd done what my bloke did and got her well out of his life. He also told me she had had another child but not to tell my bloke that he has another bro or sister. I havent mentioned it to him as when I have said in the past about her maybe having other children and he has said he doesnt care if she has, but would you want to know?

[sherrardk]

HI 4get - I would tell him. Even if he doesn't want to know at least you have told him what you know and you haven't kept any secrets from him. I don't bother lying (even by omission) as it is too much like hard work.

[dotty.]

the ABer CAJ1 has just been through the experience of finding her half-sister that up to last month she knew nothing about, she is elated and is getting on well with her, I personally would want to know, and after CAJ's posts on AB so would alot of other people, and alot have actually experienced the situation with varying degrees of success

[4getmenot]

well i was thinking that I could pretend I didnt even know like 'you told me that? I dont know I was drunk, cant remember'

[ummmm]

Yes I would want to know. I would also tell my OH....

Anyone telling me anything in private knows that I will tell OH.

[welshlibranr]

I don't think keeping secrets does anyone any good, I would tell him, what he does then is up to him, but you can never be accused of not being up front with him!...........

[karenmac60]

It's a toughie. If you tell him and he's unhappy about it he might take that out on you, but if you don't and he finds out and that you knew then he'll not be happy with you either. I think I'd have to bite the bullet and tell him though - his shooting the messenger might not be as bad as how upset he might be about you lying to him. I bet you wish his brother had kept his mouth shut..

[dotty.]

it took me 30 minutes to track CAJ's sister down, let me know if you need any help with this 4get.

[4getmenot]

he hates his mum, got a feeling he'll just say 'i dont give a sh1t'. i'm sure he must know she'd have had another

[ummmm]

He might hate his Mum...doesn't mean he'll hate his sibling.

[dotty.]

Not the child's fault though and it might mean nephews and nieces too.

[society]

At least you know your conscience would be clear if you tell him.

[4getmenot]

jeez we have aneough xmas presents to but thanks lol. karenmac he would never take anything out on me, he's the most laid back bloke he's literally horizontal thats why I dont think he'd even take note of it. but yer wish his bro hadnt told me, and surely his sister knows as she kept in contact with her mum up until a few years ago

[dotty.]

plus the half sister could be rich and famous and live in somewhere exotic like Paris, LA or Bolton

[4getmenot]

I think it is clear, not my fault he told me :-) Just wondered if you'd want to know. I would want to but then I'd already be thinking 'i wonder...' and would have found out myself

[sherrardk]

My husband hasn't spoken to his dad for over a year and doesn't seem to give a
sh!te but every now and then I say 'should you ring your dad?', he says 'no' and I say 'well don't blame me when he's dead' (he's 86) - that way I feel I've done my job, maybe you should just do that with your OH.

[ummmm]

Plus he might need their bone marrow...

[4getmenot]

unless they won the lotto I doubt they have made much of themselves. The mothers defo not rich as she still owes his bro loads of money

[society]

Your bloke is beginning to sound like Ummm's bloke. ;-)

[4getmenot]

sherrard I dont think he could be @rsed to find her number out. lol.

[Prudie]

These things tend to come out eventually anyway. I couldn't keep a secret like that from my partner.