Sent present but haven't received reply . . .

[shivvy]

I sent a present to a family member who recently had a baby. However she has not acknowledged that she has received it. She is usually very good at sending thankyou notes or dropping a quick email etc but I haven't heard anything from her even though we have been in touch via facebook.
My quandry is that I don't know whether she has received the gift or not.
If she has received it and hasn't sent a reply then thats fine but because I haven't heard from her it makes me think that it might have been lost in the post.

What do I do? Do i ask her if the gift has arrived and risk embarassing her for not having sent a reply? Or do I presume that she has received it and risk that she hasn't and is thinking that I haven't sent her anything?

Hmmm?

[slinkycat]

How long ago did you post it shivvy? We are having terrible problems with royal mail here, it took them 4 weeks to deliver a parcel!

There was a full page article in the local paper, including a quote from a postie who said the sorting office is a mess, doesn't bode well for placing any more internet orders for xmas!

[TheWinner]

I would send her a note, saying "we were thrilled to become aunty & uncle to ?????? (or whatever) and we can't wait to see him (or her)".
Please let us know when you receive our gift, as we know the weather (especially around here) is very bad, and we look forward to seeing you all in the new year, and meanwhile, we send you all our best wishes, with lots of love from .........................

[ummmm]

Ask her...she has a new baby.....replies might not be top of her list. Stealing a few minutes of FB might be a luxury at the mo. She probably can't remember who sent what. Just say have you received xyz....and I'm sure she'll come back with a lovely reply and would be very grateful for the prompt :-)

[Jemisa]

shivvy, you say she's just had a baby, She's got different priorities now and you may not be top of the list. I am sure she will get to you, give her a bit more time.
After that I sujest you do as pinki said.

jem

[shivvy]

There would be a lot of people who I would not expect a reply from, but this lady is organised to within an inch of her life!!
I would worry that it would embarrass her if I asked her whether she liked the gift.

I posted it well before the snow so the postage shouldn't have been unexpectedly slow.

Tricky situation I think.

[crystalbee27]

Beleive me -if she has no manners that she can't drop you a quick email thanking you for the gift then she will not be embarrassed if you ask! Just say ,< BTW you did recieve that gift I sent did'nt you? >-then if she has'nt recieved it you can do something about it. I.m guessing she is of a different generation -i've had the same trouble - sent my daughter a pair of expensive earings for her birthday and three weeks later not a thankyou or anything - called her to see if she'd got them and just got <oh yes ages ago, thanks>

[shivvy]

It's not so much that I want the 'thankyou' from her but when you don't hear anything it makes you think that it has maybe gone missing in the post. She will be up to her eyes with a new baby so I don't want to put any pressure on her so I think I'll wait another little while.
The gifts werent very expensive but some were personalised and individiual so it would be nice to know that she has got them.

[DTCwordfan]

shivvy - my ex was highly organised to the nth degree and we use to joke that her memory was anal. With the birth of our first one, she joked that part of her retentiveness went out of the window with her milk........however, it's really about priorities at this time.

Patience is a virtue and I know virtue is a sin.

[Eve]

Is there another family member who could casually enquire if she liked what you sent, make it less personal from you and should get the message back if she didn't receive it.

[woofgang]

How close are you? I have friends who I would ask and friends who I wouldn't.

[shivvy]

She put a message on her facebook tonight saying that she is moving house soon so it was an opportunity for me to ask whether she had received my gift before she left the address.
As I said before, I'm not looking for a thankyou but I would like to know whether she received the gifts that I took some time to choose for her. If she has then great. If not then I do have the post office receipt so I can chase them to see where it is.