one of the reasons i have split with my partner of 5 years is down to me having too much stuff (and mess) and him being a minimalist and ocd tendencies - he cannot relax if something is out on show, he has to put everything away so surfaces are clear, dishes are done, hoovered etc, every day
i would quite like him to do that, but the problem was he expected me to become like him - obsessed with tidying and cleaning and do it as much as him - yet when i did do it, it wasnt good enough...
he wanted me to totally gut my house - get rid of EVERYTHING, except for a few items, like bed, telly, clothes, laptop etc - but everything else must go and we start again from scratch ...
i would happily have got rid of a lot of it - i have wanted to get rid of it for years, i don't want it all and a lot of it means nothing to me, but the fact that he expected me to let him come in one day, while i was not there and just skip everything, was just bizarre.
i would do a lot for love, but the fact that he would even ask me to do that - as a deal breaker!
basically we both wanted to get back together in our hearts, but we knew in our heads that this conflict would arise again if we didnt sort it out - and he said unless i did this, it was no go
so that was that!
we realised we could never live together
(there were other issues of course , this was just a part of it)