Truthfully Resigning

[eve1974]

is it better to be honest (but tactful) if resigning because you believe there are mismanagement issues ? or lie tactfully?

I think better to lie tactfully and not burn bridges.

Husband thinks its a disservice to not let employers (ie the owners not the management) know the reason.

Owner (who is seldom here) would like to have a face to face with us about our reasons before we leave.

[jno]

what bridges have you got in mind? Would you want to work there again some day?

If they want to know, I'd tell them, but yes, tactfully. Don't get angry or emotional.

[pastafreak]

As above...

Did you get the job you wanted?

[davebro]

Don't give reasons, just go. If they have any sense they will realise why.

[Canary42]

It will just sound like sour grapes (remember Cummings).

[naomi24]

A disservice? Do you owe him anything? I wouldn’t rock any boats or create any potential problems for myself. Smile nicely and wave goodbye. You’re moving on. His problems are his.

[davebro]

BTW lying is not good even if done tactfully.

[eve1974]

Pasta we are at 3rd n final interview stage. It’s looking good but obv NO guarantees until (IF) we get it for sure.

But we’re taking a risk n decided to resign anyway life is short and even if we don’t get this role then we do have enough capital to see us thru a spell without work. (Tho won’t last forever obv!!)

We own our own place (we rent it out for hols n it will be empty from oct onwards so we have somewhere to live in the meantime as obv our work always includes staff accom.

Me- I’m nervous of leaving without another job to go to but I see Husb point …. Life is short. He nearly died (sepsis / cancer) 4 years back n he doesn’t want to waste time . He’s been struggling with depression lately (on meds) and he hides it well from others but I see his point and figure it’s ok we will take a chance

[eve1974]

Jno - no we won’t want to work there again but we will need a reference and…. The world of posh private estates is everyone (owners) knows each other or is even distantly related lol.

We really like the owners a lot…. It’s just the nepotism and mismanagement amongst the staff that is difficult.

Owners not often here so they don’t know. And staff job is to just get on with it not involve the owners (it’s normal in these sort of work circumstances)

[jno]

I'd do the same, eve, you're right, life's too short to spend doing something you don't like. But if they're interested enough to ask why you're leaving, I'd tell them, politely.

[eve1974]

Canary and Naomi that’s my thoughts too. Husb differs - but he feels more *** off than I do tbh.

[elliemay1]

Good luck Eve, I hope it all goes well for you both

[eve1974]

Dave that is true!

[eve1974]

Ty Ellie may

[curlygirlies]

I doubt the owners wish to be involved in clashes of personality within the staff. I would emphasize how you have enjoyed working for them but now feel it's the time in your life to move on. Thats all they will want to know , if that, to be honest.