my teenage son wont go to school, what can i do

[skatermum]

my 16yr old son wont go to school in a morning and wont get up on time either , where can i get help ?

[WoWo]

Just ask him why he isn't going to school, if he comes out with some rubbish that he is now 16 and doesn't legally have to, just tell him that legally you no longer have to feed or house him so if he is happy not to go to school he can get a job and move out.

[Lonnie]

Put this in parenting, you'll get a better response.

[mimififi]

I think you need to find out what the cause of his behaviour is. There is a possibility that he is just a waster and a lazy bum who can't be fagged to go, but it is more likely that there has been a catalyst which has caused this particularly if he went to school willingly before.

I would talk to your gp and get him to see one too. He may be suffering adolescent depression, or he may be ill: glandular fever, diabetes etc etc. maybe he just feels he has no motivation or purpose whereupon, does he have to be in school? has he finished his exams? Would he be better off in employment and finishing his exams at adult ed?

talk to him, and get him to the GPs for a medical. It could be as simple as he's had a massive growth spurt and is just knackered. We all know how our toddler's behave when they are having a growth spurt - they sleep and whinge for days; I think we underestimate sometimes, the physical toll puberty takes on our teenagers and they get fed up too.

DOn't despair though, keep your cool and try not to nag. Teenage boys are like mini men: They need to feel as though they have arrived at a conclusion...you need to suggest and create the impression that they thought of it first....whatever you do don't nag. SOmetimes, men/boys behave badly simply for attention too. As they get older, they just have 'colds' and 'bugs' and get attention that way. maybe he needs some TLC.
hope you sort it. And as Lonnie says; post it in parenting and you'll get a wealth of advice from people who have got the tee shirt.

[parkesquay]

I think that I am more in favour of Wo Wo's answer than mimififi's on the basis that if your son does not want to continue at school( nothing wrong with that) then he needs to contribute to the family budget i.e. GET A JOB.
Not ebverybody is suited to school but they still need to be able to support themselves.
So if he doesn't want to continue at school what does he want to do? Not a dificult question but the longer you let the situation go on the more difficult it will get. BE FIRM.

[skatermum]

thanks for the advice told him its school or a job, he decided school the easier option.