abh

[morelife]

i know a guy who beat up his pregnant girlfriend and was caught on camera doing it, he was arrested at the scene and has been taken to court and charged with abh, will he get off lightly with just community services or will he face the maximum sentence in prison

[Abdulmajid]

Too little information.

1) Has he got previous for violence?

2) What are her injuries?

3) Is she pursuing the case?

4) If not is she a hostile witness?

5) Any nedical reports?

6) Were drugs or drink involved?

7) Does he have a job?

8) How old is he?

[morelife]

no drink or drugs were involved her injuries were not too serious ahe had a few cuts and bruises he has no previous convictions for abh and he has no job she has dropped the charges with the police but they are still persuing the case in court he is 27 years old.

[Abdulmajid]

The chances are she will still be summonsed to court as a hostile witness. She must attend and failure to do so will result in her be convicted of contempt.

With the information you have suppied and with the current climate of no prison spaces left, I would say

1) 2 years suspended custodial

2) Anger management treatment

3) Fine of �350 taken from his giro at source.

[covm80]

1/2 He shud be put forward for the integrated domestic abuse programme (IDAP).... he will undertake this with the probation service, as domestic violence doesn't 'just happen'... he's probably been abusing her (albeit possibly not physically) many times prior to now.
When a woman is pregnant the risk of domestic abuse increases/ often starts.
He will need to be honest when he is with the probation officer, as, if he has any decency about him, he'll want to change his behaviour so that he can be a good partner and father (otherwise the chances are that he will continue to abuse her and the child will grow up surrounded by this and they'll also think this is the norm) the abuse will only increase and get worse... he is probably abusing her now due to his behaviour and him being caught and punished... it'll be constant remarks whereby he'll be BLAMING her for his behaviour.... "if YOU hadn't done this/ or that..."

ALSO.... Your attitude toward it needs to change, if people/ his mates keep condoning his abusive behaviour and making excuses for it or MINIMISE it, it will continue, as it reinforces your mate's attitude of "it was only......a slap" It is never only this or that.... he needs to be able to control himself and he is the only one who can do that. The first step is to admit that he has done something wrong and that he was fully responsible.... this will be very hard to do, as if you have done anything that your ashamed of, you make it something smaller by minimising it....
The integrated domestic abuse programme will only help him to change if he wants to change... in order to change he needs to recognise and understand that what he did was totally unacceptable and wrong.

[covm80]

2/2
If you were attacked in the street by a stranger you wouldn't accept it as 'ok', hence to be attacked by someone who should love you and be there for you is far worse! (In addition it is likely to be the first time it has been reported, only as it is the first time he has been caught... there will definately be a pattern and a history, even if the victim has withdrew her evidence it will still be used, as most victims will give a statement at the time and then as the abuser will promise / lie never to do it again, and became the person the victim once fell in love with all over again, or the perp will simply threaten them to withdraw, hence the police will prosecute without the victims consent)
Victims need to be protected... there are more murders from domestic abuse then any other offence, it is serious!
one in three women are or have been victims of Domestic Violence.

victims of domestic violence/ abuse can NEVER feel safe... we all take it for granted that we can close our doors behind us at night and lock out the 'bad people', for the victims, they're locked in with them!!

Tell your mate to own up to his previous behaviour as it will only help him to change... does he want his partner to only be with him as she is terrified of him or does he want a loving and equal relationship?
Does he want HIS baby to be damaged? The way he is going will cause the baby a lot of damage, as when the mother is stressed and upset or hurt, the baby will be put under strain too.

If you care about your mate and want him to help himself, I suggest you have a chat with him, unless of course your mate is in fact you! If that's the case I suggest you make some changes in your life soon!

[morelife]

covm80 my mate aint me this is a true thing that i have posted here i myself have been a victim of dv so i wouldnt do it or be glad that it is happening to some1 else, i found this sight and thought that i could get a positive answer from it and i did get some but jumping theb gun is not what i expected from this