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abh caution for my friends boyfriend
i have a flatmate who was a victim of domestic violence her boyfriend hit her in front of me another of our flatmates and my boyfriend and her lip was bust he then said he wasnt leavin our house without her expensive property that her mum bought her my boyfriend tried to reason with him that it was stealing but he was determined not to leave without it so after a while the victim realised that calling the police would be the only way to get rid of him she didnt want him arrested but they did anyway and he spent the night in a cell. He recieved a letter sayin he had been cautioned with abh basically what i want to know is if it will affect his chances of getting a job afterwards because he wants to get a solicitor involved as he thinks the police shouldnt have arrested him without the victims consent and wants the victim to say that too. she asked me for advice as she thinks if she goes along with it it will stop the drama and afterwards she can move on with her life but i dont know what advice to give her?
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So which bit was it he didn't think he should be arrested for, thumping his girlfriend in front of witnesses, attempting to steal property, disturbing the peace, creating a nuisance? According to this its the decision of the police whether or not they arrest someone
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/domestic_vi olence/practicalhh_index15.shtml
You might also like to ring the Citizens Advice Bureau to clarify the situation
I suggest your friend either calls the police again or engages a solicitor of her own to write a letter in legalese telling him to f*ck off
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/domestic_vi olence/practicalhh_index15.shtml
You might also like to ring the Citizens Advice Bureau to clarify the situation
I suggest your friend either calls the police again or engages a solicitor of her own to write a letter in legalese telling him to f*ck off
PS if you contact your Community Support Officer at your nearest police station they should be able to explain the hows & whys of arresting someone, they may also be able to help your friend find a Counsellor or put her in touch with a womens/domestic violence support group who can support & advise her
Going along with it won't make him go away, it will make things worse & she won't be able to get rid of him
Going along with it won't make him go away, it will make things worse & she won't be able to get rid of him
You may also like to know some statistics, confuzed which may help you and your friend decide how to deal with this.
1. When a victim of domestic violence finally plucks up courage to report their partner to the police on average they have suffered violence (and left it unreported) on between 12 and 35 previous occasions (depending whose report you read)
2. 44% of domestic violence victims are involved in more than one incident. No other offence shows anything like this level of repeat victimhood.
3. Offenders using violence against a partner in a domestic situation almost always escalate the level of their aggression as the number of unaddressed offences increases.
4. In more than 75% of cases where a partner starts a prosecution and then withdraws his or her consent before the prosecution is concluded, further violence occurs within three months.
The conclusions that you can draw from these statistics are:
1. The violence is likely to continue.
2. It is likely to get worse.
3. Retracting a statement which supports a prosecution in likely to result in more violence.
This violence is no fault of your flatmate. Many perpetrators insist that this is so, but it is not. Furthermore it is not a private matter. Many domestic violence prosecutions succeed without the support of the victim.
Forget your flatmate�s boyfriend�s problems he now has as a result of accepting the caution. The time to refuse a caution was when it was offered to him, not now. Your flatmate should do nothing to retract her support for his arrest. Most importantly of all, make sure she is no longer in a position to be assaulted by him.
1. When a victim of domestic violence finally plucks up courage to report their partner to the police on average they have suffered violence (and left it unreported) on between 12 and 35 previous occasions (depending whose report you read)
2. 44% of domestic violence victims are involved in more than one incident. No other offence shows anything like this level of repeat victimhood.
3. Offenders using violence against a partner in a domestic situation almost always escalate the level of their aggression as the number of unaddressed offences increases.
4. In more than 75% of cases where a partner starts a prosecution and then withdraws his or her consent before the prosecution is concluded, further violence occurs within three months.
The conclusions that you can draw from these statistics are:
1. The violence is likely to continue.
2. It is likely to get worse.
3. Retracting a statement which supports a prosecution in likely to result in more violence.
This violence is no fault of your flatmate. Many perpetrators insist that this is so, but it is not. Furthermore it is not a private matter. Many domestic violence prosecutions succeed without the support of the victim.
Forget your flatmate�s boyfriend�s problems he now has as a result of accepting the caution. The time to refuse a caution was when it was offered to him, not now. Your flatmate should do nothing to retract her support for his arrest. Most importantly of all, make sure she is no longer in a position to be assaulted by him.
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