sorry about your situation, chinadog - i hope that things work out for you. why not try to split assets sensibly between you asap and let him do the divorcing - that way, he'll have to pay for it! of course, that will only work if you are not fussed about your marital status and if you really want rid, you will have to stump up. but...there are cheap ways to divorce these days and some companies do reasonable all-in-one packages. some googling may turn up an acceptable course of action. all the best x