Can you report someone for having sex with a minor 30 years later

[upsetspouse]

My daughter was 15 and the male was 21 she became pregnant but lost the baby. My daughter later went on to marry this person but he emotionally mentally and financially abused her she was totally besotted with this person and would not believe a word against him can anyone help

[boxtops]

You can try - look at the cases coming out of the woodwork in the papers at the moment - but the fact that she later married him (trouble or not) will surely muddy the waters considerably. It's up to your daughter, though, whether she wants all that to come out. Is she still with him?

[Mosaic]

Upsetspouse, your anguish on behalf of your daughter is completely understandable and you have my sympathy. I sense you have been caught up for a long time in the middle - seeing with clear eyes what was really happening, but aware that if you act to protect your daughter it would end up driving her further away. That must hurt like hell.
But your daughter is the key figure who must instigate any actions about the foul pig she married. If she won't there's not a lot you can do about that. But I think from your own side you should seek out someone independent who you can talk to in confidence and especially talk to about dealing with these recurring feelings of frustration and anger. You can only help your daughter in the future if you are well and keeping the cork in this bottle of emotions will have an effect on your health.
Good luck and let us know how this works out for you.

[dotty.]

reading online now about the ex- corrie actor, who is 42 years old now, but has been questioned about the sexual abuse of a girl under 16 20 years ago, this may mean he had a girlfriend when he was 22 and she was only 15. seems a strange thing to do after so many years if that's the case.

[jno]

legally, you could try, but as others have pointed out he'd probably get away with it and you'll feel worse than ever.

Emotionally, it's time you handed this business over to your daughter, whose life it is. She's had years to do something about it, and didn't. Whatever her reasons for that, it was her choice, not yours. It's wrong to try to take over the lives of adult children; they have to assume responsibility themselves.

[furrypusscat]

At 15 she was under the legal age of consent, therefore the offence was having unlawful sexual intercourse with a girl under 16. I presume there would have been medical records re her loss of the baby so evidence could no doubt be found. However, as has been asked previously, why wait so long to consider reporting him and what do you want to gain by doing so.

[EDDIE51]

I can see no point in it, your daughter would be the witness and have to give evidence against him. I assume she consented to sex so the only charge would be statutory rape as she was not old enough to give legal consent. I would think the CPS would not touch this case after 30 years and it would never see a court.
Reading your post it looks very much like it is you rather than your daughter that wants to pursue the case. You have not told us how your daughter feels about this as it is her that would have to start the action. You can do nothing now she is over 16, you could have reported it when she was under 16 but far too late now.

[pizza]

Like many others upsetspouse I can't understand your need to report now.
I wonder does your daughter know you are thinking about reporting this guy she loves?
As a concerned parent you have had plenty of time to report this person if you thought he did wrong by your daughter but you haven't ! the excuse you didn't want her Dad to know is not good enough.
30 years in my opinion is 30 years too late.

[joko]

this has nothing to do with what happened 30 years ago ... this about revenge and wanting something, anything, to punish him with.

you have no other way of getting back at him and you have latched on to this one, because you know 'technically' he committed a crime.

i dont blame you really, if he really did make your daughters life a misery, but lets not pretend this is just about your terrible pent up guilt at not acting on it 30 years ago...

[Mosaic]

As a parent I don't 'blame' upsetspouse one little bit for his/her feelings. The post has been an honest expression of emotion and if anything the poster deserves / needs helpful support.
Regret at a past inaction is probably the bitterest emotion to come to terms with, and the possibly most difficult to resolve internally.