hi....i too have had family troubles similar to yours in the past (with hubby's siblings and divorced parents (still fighting after 28 years - pathetic). do NOT panic - easier said than done, i know, but do keep copies of all cyber contact, get a diary and note down any face-to-face contact/threats, things your family are encountering and do your best to retrieve any financial details (if you bank online, you may well be able to print off all your statements during that period for free - i bank with rbs and this is fine). as stated, he is the one who has the burden of proof and when the coppers come to take your statement, make sure they are aware of the history of the case and also that you expect more harassment in the future and make sure you emphasise the physical, financial, emotional and personal toll this has on you.....and you expect it to continue, so want future and ongoing support and advice. also, make sure your other children's schools are aware ds poses to the kids and make it explicit that they are not to have contact with him, be picked up by him, or leave the premises unless you are there etc. etc. the diary will be extremely important to your case/defence. start it now and write the events in it, but also reflect and state how worried/scared/vulnerable you feel and any events factually with carefully considered wording. as for your employers, they cannot dismiss you for what your ds is doing. take your manager to one side and explain if you need to. make it clear that you enjoy and respect working for the company and would never do anything to slander/libel/discuss business outside of the workplace. then....get on with your life. you have to live it and consider your other kids and the routines we all follow. approach this problem in a focussed and organised way and ask the police to give you advice on that too. they are there to support you in your complaint and i would advise you to seek criminal charges against ds if necessary as i think he deserves it at this point. do keep coming back if you like to update and chat to us....we will all try our best to do so. i wish you luck and all the best. regards, lisa x