my rights

[loveME]

I am 16, my friend who is 19 with a 4 month baby, has asked me to move in with her when she gets her house, can i do this? and how much would i have to pay?

[gina32]

redcrx is right, if you do really like children that much go to college and take exams to be a proper nursery nurse. i can assure you that looking after someones children for a couple of hours now and again is completely different to looking after them all day every day.

[4getmenot]

all too many of my mates went of the rails a bit when younger now I;m not saying this is you as I dont know your situation, but kids want to grow up too fast nowadays and leave home to be independant thinking its a bit of fun. Well it isnt stay at home, stay at school and I think the nursery course is a great idea

[bednobs]

or even better idea, get pregnant yourself (if you are a girl) -you have already said how much you love kids then you can be housed by the council yourself and your lack of educational qualifications wont matter cause you'll be able to sponge off the taxpayer all your life

[jedimistress]

I also think you should try staying on and going for the childminding option. You may find yourself being used if you do it for fun.

[New Judge]

I�ll offer no advice for loveME. I don�t think she would like some of the things I would have to say so I won�t say them.

This is more my observations on a situation that seems extremely common, and on the attitudes among those in those situations. Just to cite a few quotes from loveME�s various posts:

�...when she gets her house�

� ...well the house would be hers�,

�...also the council gives money�

�...a friend or family member can do this and we will pay them for you�

�...�well when my friend gets her house�

This entire situation and the proposed future of these three people seem to revolve around various bodies (mainly �the council�) providing housing and cash for their upkeep. It is clear that loveME has little understanding of where these funds come from (and for that reason alone she should continue with her education). The idea that she, her friend and her friend�s baby will live in a house and pay nothing like the full cost of such accommodation will appal people who have spent most of their lives working hard to provide a home for their families.

But here we have a sixteen year old who (at least at the moment) likes the idea of "exercising her rights" by moving into accommodation provided at public expense for a single mother and her child.

Finally, another quote:

�...when you want to do something in life you should fight for it��

You�ll have to forgive me, but I think this should read �when you want to do something in life you should go to the council offices with a wheelbarrow and see how much cash they will put into it�

[redcrx]

well said new judge.

[Reverandfunk]

Leave school with no qualifications

have 4 kids by 3 different dads call them Mica, Paris, Chantelle & Buttercup

Take them to visit their "dads" in prison

have a council house and spend the days watching Trisha and smoking sovereign

Repeat indefinately.

[4getmenot]

then go on jeremy kyle

[Pippa68]

If it's all that easy I certainly chose the wrong career path!

There was me thinking that gaining qualifications, getting further ones at college and working 3 jobs in order to save and buy my own home was the thing to do.

Boy..I am such a mug.

[redcrx]

same here pip. i couldnt afford to bring up a child as id like to until i was 34, and even now I work full time (without childcare) to ensure that i contribute towards housing those those that need it before the rest of my earnings can be spent by myself.

[Pippa68]

Oh if only we could turn back time, red.

Things could be so much simpler, eh?