How can I speed up my divorce?

[dinkydo]

I filed for divorce in Feb 2005 and although my ex has been pretty uncooperative I feel my solicitor has not been dealing very efficiently with my case as I am still waiting for my divorce. There has always been some excuse or other and false promises that it will be sorted out the last one being April. At this time I was told it would be all "done and dusted" within 6 weeks and I am still waiting. Is there professional body I can seek some advice or does anyone else have any advice?

[sara3]

on what grounds are you divorcing? when did you separate? is it just the divorce or are you trying to sort out kids and financial issues?

[zzxxee]

get another solicitor that specialises in divorce

[kira000]

Is it a complicated divorce? Are there things to settle? Or is it just the official divorce paperwork through the court?
If its just the divorce paperwork, then you could look at taking over and doing it yourself.
I am helping my OH do his divorce at the moment. Papers were dowloaded from internet for a small fee, and its not to difficult if you sit down and read the intructions..

[dinkydo]

Thanyou all for your reply. We separated in Feb 05 but were still living under the same roof (separate bedrooms) until I left the marital home in Dec 05. My solicitor advised the marital home needed to be sold as part of the financial settlement before the divorce but of course that didnt happen as the house prices plummeted and the recession hit. The house is still not sold and he is still living in it but I have been pushing for the divorce since last year as my partner and I have been living together almost 3 years and are planning to remarry this autumn! I had originally separated on grounds of unreasonable behaviour but agreed to 2 yrs separation last year hoping it would speed things up. I am sick of my solicitor (who works part time & has had 2 bouts of maternity leave) giving me false promises. If I changed my solicitor now would it not delay my divorce process further?

[PeeBee1]

Do away with him lol

[sara3]

you can divorce on the grounds of separation after 2 years, but only if the other party is agreeable.. otherwise it's 5 years.

have you had the Decree Nisi yet?

[flyingpig]

If you change solicitors you will have to pay their bill before they will release any paperwork to another solicitor. If you feel your solicitor is taking too long, talk to her about it and see if things can be moved along quicker. If not you could always complain to the Law Society, now called Legal Services I think, about the lenght of time your divorce has taken. Ring them they are very helpful.

[Jumpa]

Dink I must say your name suits you well. Have you thought that perhaps your counsel is having a hard time trying to defend you adulterous way . Bringing your "partner" as you put it under the same roof as you and your X. . Sounds like an episode of "Jerry Springer" . What ever happened to "For better or worse , Till death do us part" Not to judge you DINK, but people like you are the reason I will never EVER wed . There is no dignity left in people today , no desire to achieve happiness together. People today want instant gratification or else! it's sad and remember you reap what you sew . It is a shame if children are involved in this mess. The trauma a divorce causes kids is something experts should be paying more attention to there is more to it than meets the eye Where is the loyalty "May no man undo what had been joined together today under god" What happened to this marriage vow? Hmm not happy with your husband ... now not happy with lawyer / counsel .. Good luck to the new guy !!! Fire the lawyer get the ex hubby to pay for a new one... Why not ? You deserve the best of everything right?

[joby1]

where does it say she was 'living with her partner in the marital home'?......
Dinky..I would speak with your solicitor....Is she in a firm?...maybe swap to another solicitor in same firm?.....failing that...get a new one and pay.....sorry...

[Jumpa]

opps my apology I just realized that you say you moved out of the marital house . If you want to speed up the divorce "as you say" tell the soon to be Ex he can have the house you just want the divorce, because that may be the way it ends up because the fact you have an admitted partner could hurt you The judge may see the partner as the reason for the divorce "hence you adulterous ways" So why not just cut to the chase, sign over the house, unless he did the same thing first . Then fight it and feel bad for the kids ! I do
Best of luck to ya

Rick

[chelle7272]

Jumpa there's absolutely no need for that rant. you have no idea why the divorce came about and quite clearly you have misread the post.

Dinky, i think you've been given good advice here, i would talk to your solicitor and also speak to Legal Services.
Sorry ther's no easier answer, but best wishes with it.

[sara3]

wow, somebody's bitter!

[Jumpa]

Perhaps you should try a male lawyer, This way you will definitely at the least avoid a third bout of maternity leave and him giving you"" false promises". as you put it . False promises suck don't they??

[carrot99]

dinky is jumpa your ex??

[chelle7272]

lol carrot that was my first thought!
At least he has now apologised.

[madmaggot]

Jumpa, you have my sympathies as you have been badly hurt at some point, probably by your parents divorcing? Do try not to be so bitter, it only hurts yourself.

[Jumpa]

Sara bitter isn't the word . In fact i find it rather comical to a point . Both women and men are to blame and it seems to me if a lot , or all people put as much effort into their marriage as they do money and time trying to get out of the marriage , this world would be a better place. I do not think the damage and trauma, and ramifications inflicted upon a child in the midst of a divorce are fully understood by professionals just yet. I think we will find in the distant future this is the cause of A LOT of our problems with violence ,drug use , physical abuse , mental problems ect.ect.ect.

[Jumpa]

My parents enjoyed a very happy and healthy 45 year's 3 months 6 days of marriage, However you are correct they both hurt me very badly as both have passed in the year of 2005 6 months apart from each other . My wisdom you confuse with bitterness was caused by several Ex g/f saying marry me or I'm leaving... I kindly point them to the door .

[Jumpa]

I seem to have dragged this post off topic I shall go now Good luck with the divorce I wish you everything you deserve !
Rich

[dinkydo]

Thankyou all for your reply....some more helpful than others lol . Just to put the record straight without saying to much, my marriage died shortly after the birth of my son who is almost 11 yrs old so for almost 6 yrs I lived a life devoid of any love or affection from my other half. I was totall commited in the relationship and I chose to stay as I had invested a lot of time and effort but if I hadnt made the move to get away I was ready for a nervous breakdown. I resent anyone making negative comments about my situation without knowing the whole story but appreciate the encouraging advice from most of you.