partner on abh charge at crown court!!!

[tori123]

basically my partner and i had a huge fight over my jealousy, and it led to us hitting each other and i provoked him we throw some very personal insults at each other and my patner tried to suffocate me. police came he was arrested sent to magistrates court remanded in prison til trail at crown next week. he has previous convictions for common assault on my self also. i feel so guilty because we are still together and i need help and so does he but dont want him to get long sentence, is there anything i can do to get him a lesser sentence even though he has pleaded guilty??

[jno]

You could tell the court so. But he tried to suffocate you? That is serious and I wouldn't be surprised if the court treated it so. The fact that you insulted him does not justify him trying to kill you. I hope you can see your way to valuing yourself a bit higher than that.

[RATTER15]

He tried to suffocate you and you want a lesser sentence. lock him up and throw away the key!!!


He is a worthless piece of scum and you want him!!!?

[AlBags]

Bullies always have the sweetest excuses.

[Rosetta]

have you booked Jeremy Kyle yet?

[tori123]

i know im trying to justify what he did, but it was in the heat of an arguement and i really dont think he ment to or realised the severity of it til after. from my point of view it could easily have been me hurting him. so i just feel that i have been let off when i caused himto do it in the first place. i dont think retracting my statement will make any difference, but feel like i have to do something.

[tori123]

i just want to know if any one knows if there is anything i can do, i dont know if writing to the court will make any difference or not, or if they know we are staying together will it change anything. i think they can go ahead and sentence him with or without my statement.

[jno]

if he has a lawyer (and he should), speak to the lawyer and say what you've said here - that you forgive him and that you're standing by him. (Personally, I think you're nuts to do so, especially if he's done it before, but it's your right to decide your own future.) The lawyer will explain this to the court and it might mitigate his sentence.

[LoftyLottie]

Sorry tori123 but you didn't cause him to try and suffocate you. You are typical of women who are being hurt and abused and you take the guilt upon yourself because you 'provoked' him. You both need help and you especially. You have to have more self worth. This man is not good for you.

[tori123]

no surprise here but yes he has solicitor and a bloody good one at that i should know i got one for him. i will ask him just easnt sure if i could speak with his solicitor seen as im suppose to be the victim. thanks. in answer to the i'm nuts comment yes i take your point but my cant help who we fall in love with, and im getting help and support for my anger and low self esteem and he is getting help inside. so im not going to give up on him.

[tori123]

anyone got any clues how long they think he will get inside?

[gaspanic]

cyanide?

[pink-kittens]

'dont think he ment to or realised the severity of it til after'

Isn't that what the last wife murderer said?
Get out whilst you can - heats of the moment lead to attempted suffocation - oh, sorry you already know that.
Heats of the moment lead to assault convictions - oh sorry, you already know that

So, you threw a few nasty words at him and he tried to kill you? Sticks and stones and all that - you can't kill anyone by calling them a w **** er, eh?

[RATTER15]

Guys like this really need locking up, the next time he may succeed, he could kill you!!!!!!

[ummmm]

She said they were hitting each other....she could be the one that kills him.

We don't know the full story here.

[maggieb66]

I would have thought that if you're the victim they will want a statement from you if you go to court and say you lied, he'll get off, you'll get done for wasting court time though.
I don't agree with what you want, but uummmm's right, we don't know the whole story.

[RATTER15]

I agree ummmm, I have been in a similar relationship, I never struck my wife but she had drawn blood from me many times, I just walked away until she had calmed down, I eventually left her.
No "man" should ever strike a Woman. He can also walk away, suffocating her is not self defence.

[looby1914]

Sorry but they should throw away the key... He's got previous for doing assaults on you but you still defend him?!?!?!

You two should be as far away from each other as possible in my honest opinion

[ummmm]

Yes RATTER in theory, but not all men are like you. Peoples personalities are so different and I've seen on many occasions where a women has tried to drive a bloke to breaking point. Some women don't let men walk away.

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

This will all become moot when one of you kills the other one.

[RATTER15]

I know Ummm but hitting a woman is unforgivable, there are legal options open as well, violence just exacerbates every problem!