Adoption documentary

emmie | 14:29 Thu 15th Dec 2011 | Film, Media & TV

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did anyone watch this programme on children in care, waiting to be adopted. It was on last night, 9pm?

This is England '88.

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EvianBaby

Yeah I watched it. I wanted to cry the whole way through.

I so hope that little lad Conor gets to stay with his current family permanently and the two girls Katie and Chloe were so gorgeous. I'm glad they've found a family now. I do think the kids are told too much about what's going on though.

ummmm

Yep. Very sad.

I also hope Connor's adoption can go through.

emmie

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I did watch it, against my better judgement, as i knew it would be sad, and it was definitely that. 65,000 children in care, that is disgraceful, and i can't see how that figure is going to get any less, seeing how long it takes to find the right families for those beautiful children, my heart bled.

EvianBaby

It's easy to see how kids in the care system can end up to become very troubled young people. Like the boy and his sisters who had been with adoptive parents for 3 years, then just given back. Can't imagine the sense of rejection a child must feel from that.

emmie

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remember what it was like when you were little and there was a bit of discord in the house, and you felt a bit isolated, then mum always came to soothe things over, well that doesn't happen for these poor mites, and to take Conor away from the only family he has ever known would be criminal. I hope they update the programme to see what has happened to the children.

daffy654

I can't watch these types of documentary without getting incredibly angry. I was brought up in care and it is depressing to realise things haven't changed at all in the 27 years since I left at 16.

I used to refuse to let my daughters watch the kids programme Tracy Beaker because it gave a really false view of what it is like to be in a kid's home.

emmie

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Daffy, i reckon if it does one thing, it might make people think about how to share their home with a child, one who needs a loving, kind family. These children, and the figures are depressing, could be the failures of tomorrow, it's criminal limiting their lives that way. So instead of letting them languish in some state run home, speed up the process for one thing. I know that not everyone is cut out to be adoptive parents, but watching a documentary a few ago, where some really lovely people were ready to open their homes, hearts to these little children, they seem to have been thwarted at every turn. If DC gets his finger out, perhaps the government could do it, and stop the PC nonsense of black children with only black families, as there are just too many lives going to waste out there. A loving family is what they need, and i hope that one day we will see the back of this nightmare.

Frank97

I count myself as lucky to have been adopted by a loving couple at an early age and raised as their own, what bugs me is this obsession with creating artificial test tube families when so many children are left unloved in the care system, surely we should look after the living before we bring even more kids into this world.
Sorry rant over.

daffy654

One of the biggest problems is that not all children in care are suitable for adoption. Me and my six siblings were all under a care order which meant that any decision about where we lived was to be made by a judge. My mum had no say except to veto any attempt at adoption. We went from residential home to foster parent to residential home every couple of years, and we were seperated from each other the whole time. I never lived in one home for more than 3 years.

emmie

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D97, rant accepted, i totally understand. i found myself swearing, and not for the first or last time i'm sure at the TV, over the system that seems to be in operation. I wish i could wave a magic wand and make it right, but i can't. And splitting up siblings is a heart breaker, seeing how those three sisters were with each other, and then two went back to the care home, and the other to her adoptive family 100 miles away, just seemed so awful.

emmie

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Daffy, that should never happen...

Ankou

yes i watched it. very frustrating. mrs kou was in pieces.

i would adopt tomorrow if i could.

emmie

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Ankou, me too, i wanted to yell at the screen, for heavens sake help them, but tv's don't answer back...

pips1

The trouble is they have to be so careful who they give children to it has almost got ridiculous as regards red tape. This is totally understandable but my brother has been with us now for over 50 yrs but we would never have got him today like we did back then and he has had a wonderful life with us. He got chicken pox on a third trial weekend with us when he was 3 and never went back to the nursery, we wanted him (we were 3 children, 2 girls and 1 boy) and had an idyllic life in the countryside.