ChatterBank7 mins ago
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....Ok here's the crack
I signed up to a Dating Website that I know a few of my friends use and now I'm starting to feel more at ease there. My problem is when I go to message someone I'd like to get to know I CANNOT for the life of me think of anything to say thats cool/casual/likely to get a response....any suggestions?
I signed up to a Dating Website that I know a few of my friends use and now I'm starting to feel more at ease there. My problem is when I go to message someone I'd like to get to know I CANNOT for the life of me think of anything to say thats cool/casual/likely to get a response....any suggestions?
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Agree with Barmaid! I said as much in my profile about being sick of reading the obvious LOL.
Also agree that the ones that made me laugh got the response from me.
I didn't keep my message simple (sorry Tinkerbell LOL). I figured if I had a little to say about several of my interests that that was more likely to spark a conversation than the pair of us...
Also agree that the ones that made me laugh got the response from me.
I didn't keep my message simple (sorry Tinkerbell LOL). I figured if I had a little to say about several of my interests that that was more likely to spark a conversation than the pair of us...
16:17 Mon 23rd Jul 2012
In my experience of dating sites (I had lots* in the dim and distant past), the things that would provoke a response were those who had read my profile and thought about their approach. Trouble is I don't know how men think (you'd think after all these years, I'd have half a clue).
Thus say a profile says "I enjoy dining out". Your opening gambit could be "Hi, Your profile reads very well. I love dining out too. I am very lucky there are some lovely places near here to eat. What is your favourite type of restaurant?"
That breaks the ice slightly better than "hi". Which will probably get the response of "hi", then you have to go back with "how are you?", and he'll come back with "fine, how are you". That's like pulling teeth.
*experience that is, not men
Thus say a profile says "I enjoy dining out". Your opening gambit could be "Hi, Your profile reads very well. I love dining out too. I am very lucky there are some lovely places near here to eat. What is your favourite type of restaurant?"
That breaks the ice slightly better than "hi". Which will probably get the response of "hi", then you have to go back with "how are you?", and he'll come back with "fine, how are you". That's like pulling teeth.
*experience that is, not men
Definitely don't do as Sqad suggested and offer a meet up - sorry Sqag.
That's dangerous as well as exceptionally forward without having chatted first.
As Tinkerbell says, just a Hi, how are you and take it from there. You should ideally be talking to one another within the confines of the site and then swappng numbers to text and chat before you decide if you like one another enough to take the meeting up step.
Remember to always have someone know who you're with and where x
That's dangerous as well as exceptionally forward without having chatted first.
As Tinkerbell says, just a Hi, how are you and take it from there. You should ideally be talking to one another within the confines of the site and then swappng numbers to text and chat before you decide if you like one another enough to take the meeting up step.
Remember to always have someone know who you're with and where x
Thanks QoM. That's my cheeky boy, ASBO.
I agree with Lakitu - you won't want to offer to meet up until you've spoken to someone a few times. You need to put safety first (unfortunately, there are some abject nutters out there).
Online dating works - I met Mr BM online. We've been together just over 3 years now.
I agree with Lakitu - you won't want to offer to meet up until you've spoken to someone a few times. You need to put safety first (unfortunately, there are some abject nutters out there).
Online dating works - I met Mr BM online. We've been together just over 3 years now.