I have always maintained the same consistent view about giving and taking offence.
If a comment is made with the intention of upsetting, or embarrassing the recipient, then the speaker should be called out for it.
If the comment is made, and more importantly received, as acceptable, then it is not for others to leap in and take offence on the recipient's behalf.
If a comment is made in jest, but not received as such, then it is beholden on the speaker to accept their error and apologise -not accuse the recipient of being devoid of a sense of humour.
Clearly on the basis of those points, offence was neither intended or received, so no issue here at all.