"In reality, what's going on is what you voted for, unintentionally."
No it isn't. What I voted for was for the UK to leave the EU. There is a perfectly sound mechanism for us to do that which requires no co-operation from anybody else. Even more than that, that option (leaving without an agreement) was the default position written into the legislation which Parliament passed. Just because it's worked out a bit tricky (mainly because of the ineptitude of our politicians) that is no reason to go back on that commitment. Things often turn out tricky. The Americans decided to land man on the moon (a task somewhat more difficult than achieving Brexit, though many would think otherwise) knowing it would be difficult, knowing they would encounter problems and indeed they did (three astronauts lost their lives during the programme). But they didn't get halfway through it think "Oh, it's all got a bit too much, we'd better turn it in".
“ Logistically, there was nothign in place for us to know if we could leave the EU and if so, then how.”
Yes there was. It is called Article 50, specifically contained within the Treaty we need to extract ourselves from. It’s the notion that we need permission to leave (a “deal”) if no inconvenience is to follow that has caused all the trouble. There will be short term inconvenience under a No Deal because the UK has allowed itself to become too greatly enmeshed in a Project which is attempting to integrate the independent nations of Europe into a single political morass. The very trouble that is now evident is testament to that and that is why we must leave whilst we have the opportunity because as sure as eggs is eggs the next EU Treaty will contain no Article 50 equivalent.