I do understand why people want to feel 'included' in the grief for this poor little soul, but i also find it mawkish and self-indulgent.
If my wonderful wife departs this life before I do, my wishes will be to scatter her ashes somewhere special to us, and that will be that - I will never visit that spot again, but keep her memories in my heart.
I would ask that similar is done for me.
With regard to this tragedy - I think the grief process is hard enough, without the general public jumping on a pseudo--grief bandwaggon.