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Are The Parents Of This 16 Year Old Being Far Too Tolerant?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Hard to say, until you're in the situation, but my thoughts are
a. She's left school and a further education course due to bullying. I wonder what that's about? it seems very hard luck to be bullied in two separate settings, unless she's particularly sensitive, and the parents obviously supported the withdrawals since they home schooled her.
b. She's 16 - I think that's too soon, especially since she might be being expected to move home to a foreign culture.
c. The boy has a practising Muslim family - no problem in that, but Turkey seems to be in a mixed place about the place of Muslim women in their society - some are liberal, some are definitely not.
d. Is there any chance he's marrying her to get into the UK? Cynical, I know...
On balance, I wouldn't allow it. She's no training in a career to support her if it all goes pearshaped. Her family sound as if they are pandering to her whims all the time. I might be 100% wrong, but that's how it sounds to me. Let her go back to college in the UK, get some qualifications, keep in touch with the lad for a couple of years, and see how it goes.
a. She's left school and a further education course due to bullying. I wonder what that's about? it seems very hard luck to be bullied in two separate settings, unless she's particularly sensitive, and the parents obviously supported the withdrawals since they home schooled her.
b. She's 16 - I think that's too soon, especially since she might be being expected to move home to a foreign culture.
c. The boy has a practising Muslim family - no problem in that, but Turkey seems to be in a mixed place about the place of Muslim women in their society - some are liberal, some are definitely not.
d. Is there any chance he's marrying her to get into the UK? Cynical, I know...
On balance, I wouldn't allow it. She's no training in a career to support her if it all goes pearshaped. Her family sound as if they are pandering to her whims all the time. I might be 100% wrong, but that's how it sounds to me. Let her go back to college in the UK, get some qualifications, keep in touch with the lad for a couple of years, and see how it goes.
The age of consent in Turkey is 18 and sex with a minor is considered rape. They are getting stricter at enforcing it.
At the other end of the scale, when I was in Turkey last May, a 67 year old British woman was in a relationship with a 17 year old barman.
The truth is, many British women fall for the charms of Turkish barmen. The men see marriage to a British woman as an escape route to the UK.
// Police are investigating claims that a 14-year-old girl has run away to Turkey and married a barman she met on holiday.
Rachel Lloyd, from Wrexham, north Wales, is believed to have left her home and travelled to the resort of Marmaris to marry Mehmet Ocack, 24, despite being below the legal age of consent. //
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// Engin Temizer was a local barman, serving guests cool drinks with suave lines of broken English in her hotel.
She was 39 and he was 17. A long-term romance you’d imagine to be inconceivable – at the very least to Tracey herself. //
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