£200 is fierce for shoes, sherrardk, I agree - my mind boggles at spending that much. I do know that when my kids each grew 2 sizes in the same 4 mth. period I felt like jumping off a cliff in despair and quite a few other things went by the board so I could buy proper shoes. It will have been the same sort of sum proportionately. I currently help out my kids with costs for clothing my grandchildren and it is still a sacrifice and burden for all of us.
Yet I come back to the issue of it being a problem in many schools as indicative of the attitude towards education and using dress code as an 'in' to establishing ethos and attitude. Some smaller schools in decent areas may be able to overlook occasional violations where parents are involved with the school and their children, but in a 2,000-pupil inner-city comprehensive ....? Believe me, the unlaced, grubby trainered, shirt-adrift pupils of uncaring parents are not helping. Is upping standards and expectations for the whole school (and eventually these pupils) more important? Everyone has a point of view.
Often we are not talking about supportive, but 'strapped for cash' parents. I know of one boy whose support assistant bought him a new pair of shoes (assistants earn very little) because his toes were poking through holes in his filthy trainers - next day the boy was back in the trainers, his dad had taken the shoes to the pub and flogged them!
You have to start somewhere!