Isn't This Incest?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/index.html

[bednobs]

Surrogacy has been going on for some years. Mothers having babies for their daughters (who for example have undergone cancer treatment) never get accused of incest (as far as i'm aware!).
Also, sisters bringing up their sisters, grandparents bringing up their grandchildren etc never seem to promote cries of how confused the child will be

[anotheoldgit]

jackthehat

/// This story is no different from the ones where a mother carries a child for her daughter who has 'difficulties' of one form or other. ///

It is quite a bit different, but then in this topsy turvy world we live in who actually knows.

[woofgang]

why is it different AOG?

[bednobs]

how is it quite a bit different????

[jackthehat]

Why is that, exactly?

[Sqad]

\\\\\ grandparents bringing up their grandchildren etc never seem to promote cries of how confused the child will be\\\\

Mainly because the children are not usually told until they are in their teens and have had what one used to call a stable heterosexual upbringing.

All that has now changed.

[ummmm]

So why does this child need to know?

[bednobs]

so the perceived weirdness is about the fact he's gay?

[Sqad]

\\\\So why does this child need to know?\\\

He doesn't NEED to know, but i bet my bottom dollar that he at some time will WANT to know.

[anneasquith]

it does give a new slant on '' where did I come from daddy ''? ' ask your grannie son '' . :)

[ummmm]

He could be the best father in the world and to know your nanny went through the hell of pregnancy to give him a child is surely something to be proud of.

[jackthehat]

I think that's about the size of it, bednobs....

[hc4361]

The child will know because both the birth giver and the sperm donor (mother and son) will be on the birth certificate.

[ummmm]

Why can't the birth mother be left off the BC? Plenty of men are.

[woofgang]

so the egg donor isn't mentioned on the birth cert? No i guess not as they are anonymous. I think though that the child has the right to know who the egg donor was once the child is an adult?

[hc4361]

The birth mother is never left off the birth certificate. The child would think it very odd to have no named mother, don't you think?

[sp1814]

No it's not incest.

The egg was provided by a donor and Mrs Casson carried for him.

He has made one very serious error of judgement - taking his story to the papers.

Also AOG - the link in your question is wrong. It should be:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2983380/EXCLUSIVE-mum-son-baby-Mother-reveals-surrogate-gay-supermarket-worker-desperate-father.html

[SeaJayPea]

Hmm. I just clicked on your link, aog, and it's taken me to an article about Jeremy Clarkson.

Certainly could be the result of generations of incest.

[anotheoldgit]

He is not the legal Father, his mother is the child's legal mother and his Dad is the child's legal Father, and their names are on the child's birth certificate.

/// Rules stipulate that a surrogate mother must hand over a child to two parents – usually a couple ‘in an enduring family relationship’. ///

/// Under the law, it would be a crime to hand over the baby to the biological father alone. ///

/// But the judge argued that the adoption would not break laws because the baby and its father are legally related as brothers. Social workers backed the adoption, saying it would ‘strengthen the bond the father and child already share’. ///

/// But critics described the procedure as ‘dubious’ and called for urgent
reforms to prevent abuses of fertility law. ///

[hc4361]

He has adopted the child so he IS the legal father