If You Found Out There Was A Transgendered Child At A School Your Child Was Attending, Would You Take Them Out Of Said School?

[sp1814]

http://m.huffpost.com/uk/entry/uk_59b63647e4b0354e4412c18a?ir=UK

I can understand the concern of the parents involved - they're being confronted with something they don't understand, but withdrawing their children from contact with all other children in their school?

Is that wise?

What would you do?

[-Talbot-]

I really don't understand why these two Christians are worried about lads in dresses.

He could well end up as ... http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2017/06/24/21/41B6A10700000578-4636066-image-a-113_1498335074453.jpg

[NoMercy]

DT - I simply wouldn't allow a child to make demands. I'm the parent, therefore I'm in charge.

[bednobs]

if the childwho has been removed is confused, and thats the reason they've taken him out then it's up to the parents to unconfuse him. At six years old it would probably take about 2-3 sentences, maybe even less

[bednobs]

instead they remove him, make themselves (and him) "famous" cause a big kerfuffle and hurt enormously another family in the process

[DTCwordfan]

agree on that, barmaid - and NoM, we'll give you three years on that one....it's psychological warfare that you are taking on.....which battles to concede on and which to win!!!

xx

[jim360]

"//I'm happy to answer questions as you may have//

You're not. We've established that in the past. "

Just to be clear -- I am happy to answer, or to try to answer, any questions you may have, as long as they aren't too personal. That's the only limit really.

[woofgang]

Here's what I think......that for people who feel happy in their gender ident/sexual partner choices, there is no need or right for them to understand those who are not similarly content.
That no one has a right right to require to understand or to dismiss or disagree with the validity of the the gender ident/sexual partner issues of others because they don't understand them. (I seem to have strayed onto portmanteau sentence territory again).
What is necessary is good manners.
At minimum to have the attitude that other people are entitled to be different from ourselves in ways that we cannot understand or empathise with provided what they do/say/feel does not injure others. That when we address or describe anybody, we should use the terms and words that they would choose to describe themselves.
To behave from the premise that while understanding someone might be helpful in accepting them; it is not a prerequisite.

In all honesty I don't understand gender dysphoria. As someone who is cis gender, it lies totally outside my experience and its not something that I can imagine. I "know" that I feel female but I would be hard put to describe what that feels like and I am fairly sure that what it feels like to me differs quite a bit from what it feels like to many other women. I wonder how much of an artificial construct "feeling female" or "feeling male" may turn out to be...which in turn leads me to wonder what someone who feels that their biological gender is at variance with their psychological gender is actually feeling because so many of the external signs of female gender, in particular, eg wearing skirts, high heeled shoes, make up and so on, are social conventions.....as I said I don't know and don't understand.....but that's fine. I am not required to and have no right to......all I have to do is accept that its a valid way for other people to feel.

[237SJ]

No way. Why would I want to?

[woofgang]

want to what?

[237SJ]

^^ See the Op

[woofgang]

oh golly...you were actually answering the OP!!!!! that has to be a first!!!!

[naomi24]

Woofgang, //That no one has a right right to require to understand or to dismiss or disagree with the validity of the the gender ident/sexual partner issues of others because they don't understand them.//

If you are ‘required’ to respect gender identity, which it appears you are, then it’s reasonable to question just what it is you’re expected to respect.

[naomi24]

Jim, third person works.

[-SharonA-]

I laughed when I read this. It is oft for the parents to be suing. It is not like their sons were made to wear dresses. Wrapping them in cotton wool like this will not help them.

[-SharonA-]

^^^^^ daft ^^^^

[woofgang]

What you are expected to respect is the right of others to choose to be different provided that that difference does not harm or disadvantage others. IMO there is no need to understand why they make that choice or what their understanding is of their choices.

[woofgang]

sorry. that was in answer to naomi

[naomi24]

Woofgang, your choice is not mine. I want to understand that which I'm expected to respect.

[Cloverjo]

I don't know what it's like to feel that my biological sex is different from my gender, but I remember reading an article about a person who had a male body, but felt she was a woman. She asked the female journalist something like "How would you feel if you started growing a beard, penis and testicles?"

With regards to the OP, no I wouldn't withdraw my child from school if there were a transgendered child there.

[woofgang]

naomi, is there any part of who or what you are that you expect people to respect without understanding it?