So What Is The Answer?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-42252071

Yet one more survey that results in nothing being done.

[Islay]

We have evolved beyond animals therefore they know what is right and wrong and to proposition women (or any sex)?in such a manner is wrong

[albaqwerty]

not sure where I should answer this, here or in so woman thread
anyway

Once worked for a certain company - one of the Sales Reps would pop into the office, pop his hands on the shoulders of those seated at their desks and give them a quick kiss on their cheek.
Didn't matter if you were female or male, it was just his way of saying 'thank you' to the 'team'
No offence seemed to be taken by anyone.

Maybe a different time..?

[Old_Geezer]

Respect starts at a default level. It is earned or lost from one's actions afterwards.

[tamborine]

The answer is ‘dont flaunt it’ & get a job that doesnt depend on boob size

[emmie]

tambo

i have worked in any number of businesses, and from experience can claim that boob size was the least of one's problem,

[david small]

Snowflakes alert.....life eh....things happen, deal with it precious.

[Islay]

David so you would be happy if your daughter was talked too in that manner?

[TWR]

Purchase a bottle of Lactulose & add some to the dirty sod's drinks, that will make them *** themself..

[david small]

My daughters are quite able to deal with impertinence, rudeness, and crass behaviour. One works on phone response and gets ridiculous comments from over reacting people. She doesn’t let it upset her.

[Islay]

Oh well that makes it ok then David!
I cannot believe you would suggest it is OK to talk to ladies in such a manner!

[douglas9401]

When you say 'ladies' do you mean 'women'?

[Islay]

What difference does it make be it women or ladies?

[Ellipsis]

The answer has to come from employers. For example, in the case of the "table of wealthy, suited men" who "asked if she had an intimate piercing" ... they should simply have been thrown out. I wouldn't want to eat at a restaurant that tolerated that sort of language towards staff, so it should be bad for business. If people aren't allowed to smoke in a restaurant, in part because of the effect on staff, then how the heck can this sort of behaviour be tolerated?

If the employer won't change and, in the short term, can't be held to account, then people must simply choose to work for better employers.

[david small]

I didn’t say it was acceptable islay, just that she deals with it without drama. As do many women, it’s part of today’s society. I do not condone, but, it happens.

[douglas9401]

"I learned somewhere that the word lady originates from the times in which women owned nothing. To be a lady meant that you were the property of another person. When I hear someone use the term ladies these days, I cringe. I think it sounds so condescending.
posted by rglass at 4:02 PM on November 8, 2011 [4 favorites]"

That sort of thing, you know, a trap for unwary men trying to be nice, polite even. Akin to holding a door open and ending up getting a mouthful for their trouble.
Suppose it depends on mood or something, we'll never know for sure.

[david small]

I’ve been married a very long time Douglas and realised that women are the superior species. We just pretend we are and they let us.

[douglas9401]

Aye David, but it's a bit grim when they won't even let us 'know our place' with a bit of consistency. :-)

[Ellipsis]

No, david, that sort of behaviour is intolerable. We shouldn't tolerate it in foreign visitors (and the article does not make clear whether the table of wealthy, suited men were in fact foreign) and we shouldn't tolerate it at all.

[tamborine]

I employ youngsters who know not to fraternise with clients while on my premises. One word out of place from clients to staff & I increase their bill & give the extra to staff. The client will get a rollicking after they settle their bill.

[sevenOP]

Examine group behaviour.