She'd probably lift more spirits if she kept to the original date, did the very pared-down wedding that others are doing and donated monies, as yet unspent, but budgeted for, to charity. Does she want the fact of being married to this man - or does she want a show? Plenty of people put the one they love first. I might be worrying a bit if I were he. If it sounds a ***, it's really not meant to. I keep seeing pictures of wonderfully happy couples marrying locally with just the witnesses. The big party doesn't really matter.