Having read mamya's and Barry's... I didn't actually remove my name. I ended up just confirming, and agreeing to contacting my relatives via WhatsApp lol.
But, while I fully appreciate that it is a medical decision- and it's the same in my line of work, tbf. The health decisions, Imv, should be about someone being healthy enough for the transplant at that point. The idea, we should bully, bribe, blackmail people, for compliance, at threat of their life... I still think, is awful.