Nannyjill, you say you won't argue with me, so I assume that means that although I've given you evidence that the Koran does not say that women should be put on a pedestal, etc., you simply don't believe me. If that's the case then where is your evidence to support your claim? You say in an Islamic marriage both parties need to agree. I wonder how you square that with child brides? Are they capable of agreeing? No, they do as they're told, and if that means being given in marriage to an old man, then that's what happens.
The Koran you say the Saudis use is the same Koran as everyone else uses. Obviously slight differences occur in translation, but essentially the message is precisely the same. The Koran is the word of God and, as such, is unalterable. My Koran tells muslims not to mix with non-muslims too, and my Koran commands believers to slaughter non-believers. It is no different.
I think you are peering at the world of Islam through rose-coloured spectacles. You need to read the Koran.