If you leave home?

[ummmm]

What's the options?? I really want to know.

He owns the house but.....if he ever asked me to leave what would I do?

Just a general question as I'm not in this position but. I just wanna know??

You never know.....I'm bringing my stuff to his...if he ever chucks me out, do I lose it all.

I've already just lost 50k to an ex :-( Just.....poor me :-(

[ummmm]

Sorry that didn't make sense.

I sold a house with ex and now live with ginger......if this doesn't work out what do I do?

[kira000]

Umm, cant answer your question.

But i can sympathise, me still paying back the �50k debts in loans and credit cards and overdrafts my ex left me with.

But you know what they say, what doesnt kill you, makes you stronger. I must be bleedin' hercules by now!

[dot.haukes]

I dunno what you are worried about, you never some across on here as someone who does not think about things properly. I am sure you are making the decision because your instincts tell you he is right for you, if you're not even moved in yet and thinking this way then it's not the time to do it, but i think you know that too. If he knew you had these doubts it might make him unsure himself, it's tough trying to protect yourself and your kids and take a step into a relationship that might mean you lose your previous independence. Just go for it, you'll never know how it would have gone and if he does ever ask you to leave it will mean you've not been the person you were when you got together, he's making you part of his world, enjoy it and good luck

[leggysreturn]

ive always got a couch ummm.


youre more than welcome.


btw bring any spare cash.


its welcome too



lol

[ummmm]

Dot....he's a beautiful man. We're arranging his house around my furniture.

I don't think he'll cause me issues but my Q is.....what would I do if he chucked me out.....I know I can claim for my stuff etc but what do I do at that instance.

I'm just wondering....Marty Farty would never dare....but my friend asked and it's easier asking as the I'm 'one'.

[Barmaid]

ummmm, it all depends on what you decide between you. If you move in and make a contribution to the household expenses on the basis that you will not be entitled to a share of the property that's it. On the other hand, you may agree between you that you will pay half and you will acquire a share of the property. Again, you may get married and then different rules will apply.

To protect yourself, you really need to agree with ginger from the outset what the situation will be if things go wrong. Now I know that is difficult to do, particularly when you move in with someone since you move in on the basis that things WON'T go wrong. Where it all goes tits up though is if thought has not been applied to the "what ifs". Then the lawyers get involved and it costs everyone a whole load of heartache and cash.

[dot.haukes]

oh i see, well i don't quite see but i think you mean if people become co-habitants and one is the home owner and the other isn'y what rights does the non-owner have if the relationship ends. Actually there is something in law about this, i was reading a thread in the Law section and someone answered about someone being a joint mortgagee and a partner mortgagee which means they had a mortgage together but were not actually living as a couple. i would have a look in there ummmm

[ScareCrow1]

Let me dechiper his message for you.....


leggysreturn
Sun 28/06/09
22:01
ive always got a couch ummm.?

LIAR! You sleep on a couch in your g@y lovers dungeon,this couch belongs to Leather boy juan!

youre more than welcome.

He'll slip you a rohypnol in your drinks......The rest you can guess....

btw bring any spare cash.



its welcome too
I cant afford my rent and i want to smoke crack!


lol

[craft1948]

ScareCrow you're starting to get mildly annoying......

[Barmaid]

Craft - starting?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ummmm]

It's not that....the furniture is not the question.....I just want to know, as my friend just text me about her. Where do we go if they ever chuck us out? (I asked the Q as I but......it could be me I one day) She's at her Mum's at the mo....it just got me thinking.....I'm in his house and if that ever happened to us.....where would I go?

[ummmm]

OMG....do you know his cousin???? he's had 2 convictions for stalking...that drug included :-( Not good....

[khoey]

personally i would keep my own property even if it was for a year or so to see how thinks worked out between us,no i wouldn`t give,up my independence straight away ,if you lost so much and its made you weary in another relationship why don't you ask the person to sign a prenuptial?but if you are having second thoughts now then i don't think you are ready to settle in to such a big commitment.but as your not in this position we are speaking theoretically makes me wonder how people ever get to gether in the first place if they cant make-up their minds what they want. don't become to complacent

[dot.haukes]

you should have an escape route ummm, always leave clothing and accessories in a spare wardrobe at your mums incase of emergencies.

[craft1948]

hi ummmm......thought you were getting married soon....was waiting for my invite to Las Vegas and have been looking on ebay for me frock.....

[dot.haukes]

I don't understand some of the replies on this thread sorry (even mine are confusing lol)

[sn�gs]

''you should have an escape route ummm, always leave clothing and accessories in a spare wardrobe at your mums incase of emergencies.''

pmsl... nowt like 100% commitment eh...

[ummmm]

I am Dot.......We'll getting married in the next six months or so.....he has enough money and more, so I'm sorted.....!!!

[leggysreturn]

escape route ?

did i read you said youd beeen seeing a guy for 19 years dotty?


do you have a suitcase packed too?

[dot.haukes]

it's always good to plan ahead, nothing worse than slamming out the door in a tighteous huff and finding your shooes don't match your coat, a girl needs order in her life to function