help please!!

[smi_ffy]

If a friend has died in the UK and we don’t want certain people present at their funeral, can we request the records be private?

Also, if someone dies in the UK, what are the laws on a burial or cremation abroad?

Thanks

[redcrx]

"if someone dies in the UK, what are the laws on a burial or cremation abroad?"

do you mean repatriation to their home country?

as for keeping a funeral private, how can you stop those who know from talking to anyone? You could request that people who turn up at funeral without invitation leave quietly.

[redcrx]

btw, try Law section rather than Chatterbank.

[smi_ffy]

I tried here cos there are always more replied on here, sorry

No the person who died is a UK citizen although they spent a lot of time abroad and would have liked to have been buried or cremated abroad.

As for asking the people to leave, we don’t want them to know the funeral is taking place at all.

[merciasounds]

I thought it was the family's job to anounce the death publically, nothing would be done by anyone in an official capacity other than issuing a death certificate. You could announce the death in the local paper for instance, but not when the funeral is. A funeral director is probably the best person to ask about funerals abroad.

[smi_ffy]

Hello sorry maybe I didn’t explain myself fully, apologies. People are aware that this person has died and of the area she died in so will make it their business to find out where and when the funeral is, I was wondering if there was any way that this information could be kept confidential?

[redcrx]

well you dont have to publicise it (ie obituary in paper) but you cant stop people talking about it.

try asking in law about the rules on burial abroad and also ask the undertaker where the deceased is laying at present, they should know

[smi_ffy]

Can someone call the funeral directors in the area they died to find out if the body is laid to rest there?

Thanks for your answers

[jackthehat]

Are you trying to keep 'family' away...........I'm not sure that in your capacity as 'friend' that is entirely wise or desirable.

[smi_ffy]

No its not family I'm trying to keep away, just friends that have no business being there. At the moment they do not know where she is but I'm concerned they can find out. I have the families backing on this, I am asking on their behalf as they also dont want these people present

Thanks

[jackthehat]

Understood..............:o)
...........especially as there is someone whose funeral I should like to attend.........and for all the wrong reasons !!!!

[smi_ffy]

Would you know how to find out where their funeral is? I'm not sure if the funeral directors give this information out...

[redcrx]

ask them not to. The family could ask the funeral directors to pass all requests on to the family. OK so the family may get a lot of unecessary phone calls but they can at least ensure who gets given info.

But then if funeral is abroad many people wouldnt travel to it if they felt they werent wanted.

[smi_ffy]

We have asked them not to attend as they are not wanted there and were reqwuested not to be present by the deceased. But I know these people will try everything to find out where she is. Sounds like a movie plot but its really not that interesting lol its just a few people whoa re not welcome. Would just be best if they didn’t know anything.

[redcrx]

just get security (or some big relatives) on the door of church on the day.

You cant stop them wanting to pay their respects, and you should think about what the deceased would have wanted, if they were their friends

[sara3]

a guest list, and bouncers on the door!

[LoftyLottie]

Why do they have to know about the death. You don't have to announce deaths or funerals and neither do funeral directors. You can keep the whole thing as secret as you like, but you can't avoid people talking.

[LoftyLottie]

Be aware that cremations overseas can be totally different from cremations here and you may be shocked as to what takes place.

[smi_ffy]

they already do know abot the death through mutual friends, so we cant stop them tryig to find out, but we were wondering if they COULD try and find out where she was going to be buried?

[smi_ffy]

lofty lottie? How different in what way??

[sara3]

you can't stop word-of-mouth, but you can tell the undertakers that you do not want any details given out if enquiries are made.