Why do some people deliberately....

[kat2206]

try to pee you off constantly... me and OH have been together for 5 years and he finally proposed last month so I am well excited, have set the date for August 2012, which is 19 months away.. I have started planning already as I want to book the "best" suppliers I can get hold of so if it means booking them now I will do... so why oh why do some people, especially family and friends keep saying to me " you still have 2 years to go yet, theres plenty of time"... this is OUR special day, I want it to be just amazing and if it means me starting to plan now then why the hell shouldnt I without this constant whining in my ear. AND its not 2 years, its 19 months... there is a difference!!!

[snags]

Ignore them It's your day, do what you want when you want.

[China Doll]

Erm... they're probably just not wanting you to get stressed out or carried away rather than trying to pee you off intentionally. I wouldn't let it bother you. You're excited and that's fine, as you say, it's a day for the two of you so organise it how you want and don't worry about it.

[redcrx]

do you think they are deliberately saying it to annoy you?? i dont

it seems that they are just trying to stop you any extra stress over the next 19 months by suggesting that you slow down a bit.

if you are getting pee'd off by it them perhaps you are already very stressed by it :)

[rowanwitch]

understand completely with some venues booking up years in advance it takes a lot of organising....but don't try to do it all....get the big things booked then take your time and enjoy doing all the other stuff

[Booldawg]

brides and their weddings..tsk. Getting involved in like taking a pit bulls food bowl off it!

[kat2206]

I have already booked the cars, chair cover hire, chocolate fountain, caricaturist for the evening reception, photographer... booking the venue in Janaury when we have the money. I bought the bridesmaid shoes as they were in a sale but I dont feel stressed over it, just excited. I dont think they share my excitement and thats ok but I wish they would stop trying to wind me up.

[ladybird49]

I dont blame you booking now , wedding services get booked 1-2 years in advance as we found out when my daughter got married , enjoy it all and ignore negative comments from friends / family x

[LoftyLottie]

I can understand your excitement but can also understand your family and friends, especially if you keep on about it to them!! It can get very boring for them!! Also you are at the peak of your excitement too early in my opinion which can often lead to a real anticlimax. Book your venue and caterers by all means and then sit back and relax and enjoy yourself and as Rowan says take your time - and don't make your wedding the biggest focus of your life. A wedding is great, but ulimately its the 'marriage' that is important.

Is your partner just as excited as you about it all. Don't forget that a lot of men aren't so bothered about the wedding as their future wives. Don't bore him!!

I don't mean to be a spoil sport but take care!!

[tiggerblue10]

I can see where your friends and relatives are coming from but I can also see your point of view. Just do things they way you want to but don't say anything to them. They're probably thinking that you'll be going on about it until the day you get married.

[ladybird49]

And wedding insurance is a must ,it was around £20 two years ago you must read the small print though so you know what youl be covered for x

[kat2206]

He is excited, I think... lol

He has left a lot of the planning such as colour themes etc to me and he did have some opinions on the cake designs which I enjoyed as he took an active role in the planning and he liked the BM shoes too, so yes I suppose he is involved but just not as involved as I am lol.

[B00]

In all fairness if you planning your wedding means everyone else around you has to hear about it or worse, help you plan it NOW, I can understand them getting peed off about it.

Sorry to be blunt, but it may be your special day, but it's not theirs.

[kat2206]

Ive never really thought about wedding insurance, is it good to have?

[kat2206]

I particularly want help planning it as I have ideas in my head the way I want it to look etc.. I am quite an organised person anyway, so with regards to help planning I'm really not that bothered but I just wish they would shut up about the time Ive got left to wait to be a MRS...

[B00]

Yes, but if you're going on and on and on and on about it to them, they're probably bored to bloody tears about it all already.

[kat2206]

I can understand that but if they want to be a part of the wedding party then they will get to hear about the plans, simple.

[ladybird49]

www.which.co.uk
look at wedding insurance

[B00]

oh jesus, the poor sods, i really feel for them.

sorry, hate to be blunt, but they probably are really really bored of it by now. Yes its your important day, but its not theirs and having to listen to you "planning" for the next 19 months ,would seriously do my nut in too. Infact they're nicer than I would be, i'd have told you to F off ages ago.

[naomi24]

So can we take it you wouldn't be happy to share the excitement then B00? ;o))