A work colleague, higher up than me, has been messaging me for several evenings. It started when his MIL died suddenly 10 days ago and he was in shock. He messaged me because he said he knew how I felt as my mum was only 59 When she died. Anyway, it’s pretty clear to me that he is only txting me at night when he is drinking as the messages are getting a bit inappropriate. His sex life etc..... how is mine,,,,,,
He’s a big name in my company and just don’t know what to do,I’ve just told him to go to bed ....
Difficult for you Smow, but could you have quiet word with him at work, firmly, politely and concisely explaining how inappropriate his behaviour is and that you dont want to to take the matter to your personnel department, but if it continues you will have no other option, and it may jeopardise his job / career i.e. call his bluff. Others may have an opinion on this route of addressing the issue.
Maybe not wise to escalate the situation. A gentle rebuff, saying you turn your phone off at night as it disturbs your sleep pattern. Then just do not respond to texts for a while.
Smow, tell him by text or face to face that you are happily married and his advances are inappropriate and you find them disturbing. If he doesn't stop now you will take it further. If he doesn't stop then you must take it to either his boss or the police.
smow the grief and maybe any support you may have been willing to give is one thing, the sexual innuendos are something totally different and out of order.