hated !!

[gummybear]

Can anyone tell me why attractive but nice woman are generally hated by other woman ? Does anyone have this problem and how do they overcome it ?

[weeal]

Im sure that doesnt happen to all attractive nice women

Women at work (generally) take a dislike to me just cos Im slim, its ridiculous, they even say "skinny bitch" n stuff which is upsetting even if its half in jest

[China Doll]

I just walk around safe in the knowledge that I am actually superior.

It gives me a warm, fuzzy feeling inside.

[hau kola]

Yes but weeal,youre skinny AND attractive.

[weeal]

hau kola Im not skinny lol
i am not, everyone on here knows that I am like yoda

[weeal]

lol @ china doll, you go girl

[daffy654]

The only attractive women I hate are those the feel the need to constantly winge that the only reason they are disliked is because they are better looking than others.Or those who flaunt it outrageously.

[gummybear]

Thanks Weal !! iv worked for 5 years to get the job i have finally landed , the women hated me on site ! the men are nice and say they are only jelouse but its making my life hell and im thinking of leaving after 5 months even though i love my job !! i feel a life pattern beginning to start and when i look back its happened over and over - wish i new how to make them like me, they never give me a chance !!

[weeal]

gummybear - are you saying you think its because youre attractive?

[weeal]

maybe they are jealous of your job? sorry I dont mean that to sound like youre not attractive, just wondering.

[cazzz1975]

maybe you have a dodgy personality? I wouldnt hate a woman because she was slim or attractive, the only reason I would dislike someone was if their attitude was bad and their personality stunk.

the only women who get jealous of others are normally quite young (I like to call it that funny age!) and insecure.

I treat people in the way I like to be treated..with complete contempt ..lol only jk!!

[gummybear]

i dont actually think im attractive like wow but i am above average ( please dont think im the sort of person thats full of themself im really really shy ) i suppose its what iv brought it down to cos im so nice to everyone i dont know what else it could be !! iv never said anything like this to a sole i know not even my husband im just starting to feel very alone and dont know a way out . I have so many friends out of work but spend most of my time at work nervouse, alone and emmbarrest...help

[weeal]

even when i was at school I was teased for being wee and have had every joke in the book thrown at me, even by blokes tho not just females, its deffo cos Im slim

[gummybear]

Weal - slimmer the better far as im concerned hun x

[cazzz1975]

I would ignore them, maybe you being new and shaking up their clique has probably earned you a few glares. I would doubt its because of your looks (dont get me wrong you are probably v attractive) but there are lots of attractive women who get on fine with everyone, I know several who have the men virtually drooling on the floor when they walk in a room!! lol

but they are very nice people and everyone likes them men and women alike, maybe they are trying to work you out, if you are shy and quiet that can be taken as aloofness or moodiness in some people.

[weeal]

I feel it for you, its no fun when on the wrong end of people who are not nice to you, for whatever reason.
You should, if youre brave enough, hold your head high but just be your normal nice self and fight through it. Sounds like jealousy and Its so unfair.

[gummybear]

Cazz - never considered it could be my shyness ! ill try crawl out my shell a wee bit - its hard when i feel so disliked though ...
Weal - im gonna hold my head up high for one more month then find the door me thinks, thanks guys, its a hard subject to raise cos so many women mistake it for pure vanity - i wish i was ugly every single day and thats the god honest truth !!

[weeal]

i didnt mean to imply you were vain, sorry if i did

good luck missus

[gummybear]

Weal - you didnt at all hun you were sweet and lovely thanks !

[weeal]

gummybear - thought you said you were shy lol

just noticed you in the immigration post - hahaha - youre givin it pelters

[gummybear]

Well Hello Weal - nice of you to notice me, Not shy when im safely sat at home hee hee, never done this sort of thing before. I went on a Google search cos my eye kept doing this bizarre twitchy thing and by some fluke it brought me on here and i think im kinda hooked !!
Some people can get so mad/frustrated, im almost only typing it to push buttons - i think lofty lottie on immigration thing is close to blowing...well makes me giggle.
Speak soon x