Absolutely Gutted - Relationship

[TheSuburbs]

Myself and this girl went to the same school together. I was a year above her and I really liked her but I never had the guts to tell her any thing. Last year she added me on Facebook and I got so excited but we still didn't talk much but over the past two weeks we have been talking via Blackberry Messenger and we decided we would meet up on Monday (Just gone)

So I got the train and met her, we went out for a Coffee then to a Weatherspoons for a couple of pints then for a nice walk up the canal then to another bar for something to eat.

At the end, I gave her a kiss and a hug and left and got the train home.

On the Monday I was supposed to get her a rose but I totally forgot to last night I found her address and organized 12 roses to be sent to her house and I text her earlier asking her if shes going to be home tomorrow and she kept asking why so I eventually told her and she told me to cancel it, then deleted me of Blackberry Messenger and Facebook because of it. She said I was coming on to strong and that I was a 'creep' for finding her address even though it's publicly available on the internet.

She has a boyfriend and I know this, I went to see her as a friend and nothing else, the kiss was just a friend kiss and that was it. Herself and her Boyfriend don't get a long and have loads of problems and she said to me to wait till after Christmas and New Year to see if anything would happen between us. I was hopefull but if nothing happened that would be ok, just being friends would be good.

Then she goes and does this when I was just wanting to send her some roses, what's wrong with that? I said I would get her this necklace for Christmas (as I do with most friends) and she said that's too weird too.

I'm lost for words, I feel sick because of this! what did I do wrong :(

[NeonBible]

Sorry for my spelling and grammar errors on my last two posts.

[boxtops]

Neon, I still think it would be best if she broke with her boyfriend before you start a relationship with her. He may not be nice but if she'll do that to him, it's not a good start. She needs to make that break before you two start becoming an item. It would be better all round.

If she's afraid of this other guy, then she'd be better out of it anyway.

[NeonBible]

@Boxtops

I will take your advice and leave it for now..I just hate to see her hurting inside when no one else does. She said to me on the day " I have never been on a date like this and laughed this much before "

[Purple_Popple]

In my opinion to buy a dozen roses and have them delivered to her door implies you wanted something more than mere friendship and smacks of desperation. This may be hurtful and hard to read but its not meant to hurt you.
This has happened to me on more than one occasion - to be honest it scared the hell out of me and didnt make me think of 'friendship', then again maybe a lady would love this attention....leave her to her own now, she has a boyfriend and only she knows what she wants.

[lcg]

three things....
1. she is a c o c k tease, you should tell her straight that she is one and recognise this behaviour for the future - some women behave like this
2. you are desperate to get in her knickers, and made it crystal clear to her. the fact that you went over and above to meet her, flatter her and look up her address etc. makes you look very desperate and a bit creepy
3. find a girl closer to home that doesn't have a boyfriend and expects gifts in return for sex/a relationship

[midagealphamale]

she is completely not interested in an intimate relationship with you unfortunately. likely she is not feeling the chemistry. it is just the cold hard truth. move on to other prospects. do not dwell on this. have you ever had a woman that you felt no chemistry for come on to you? how did you act? what kind of things did you say and do to get rid of her? .......i am sure you were nice when talking to her but kept a distance.....sound familiar? find someone who responds positively to your kind gestures.