Cross-Dressing. Why?

[naomi24]

I can understand homosexuality, I can understand trans-gender, but I simply cannot understand why heterosexual men indulge in cross-dressing. Any thoughts that may enlighten me will be welcome.

[murraymints]

the chap I knew was most certainly hetro

[murraymints]

oo sqad..do spill !!

[mikey4444]

Gness...I don't know why you dress in black all the time, so I am unable to link your comment to some Perry. I tend to wear back a lot too, because I find it very slimming, and I could do with some help in that dept. !

[Sqad]

murray........LOL.........."Trevor".......LOL

[murraymints]

they are so much better at make up than me too !! sigh

[jim360]

When I posted that "hope it doesn't affect the way you see me", it wasn't necessarily because I thought you knew the reasons. More that the "OK. Thanks," was rather a muted response, and I wasn't sure what (if anything) to take from it.

At any rate, the point is that I don't want this to be something that people define me by.

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Like I said, it's a very hard question to answer -- again, though, while my sexuality is my own affair, I'm struggling to remember when I identified myself on this site as completely 100% hetero. Others who crossdress may well be, but that's by the by. The mistake is in associating the two anyway. For some dressing in women's clothing is a very sexual thing, for others it doesn't have a thing to do with what they get up to in bed, and who they like to spend time in bed with.

It is, anyway, a very difficult thing to explain. I'd love to. But beyond the "it's just right", I can't. Don't mix it up with sex or sexuality, is all.

[gness]

Jim...it's going to be very difficult.....if not impossible..... for some not to connect it to sex and sexuality......
I doubt anything you say with convince them otherwise.....but it matters not.......be happy.....♥

[Prudie]

"Apparently you don't wish to join me abstaining from holding forth about something I know nothing about!"
And this is exactly the problem, probably lots of others not so bold, including me, are not joining the thread because although we genuinely don't understand we are are cast out as being bigoted for admitting as such.

[mikey4444]

I have met 2 crossdressers in the course of my work, over the last 3 years. Both were elderly single men. Neither of them were remotely plausible from close up, although both would have fooled people if seen in the distance.

The one I met last summer was a very nice man, in his early 70's and he told me that he had been married twice before. My eyebrows must have gone up a millimeter of two inadvertently, when he said that and he asked me if I wanted to know why both marriages failed.

Well, if you don't mind I replied !

He then explained that both marriages were fine, until his wives came home unexpectedly and found him wearing their clothes !

[pixie374]

More to do with his lack of communication mikey...

[jim360]

Incidentally, Naomi -- and others -- I'm not offended by people asking questions. What bothers me far more is the people who don't even bother asking.

[retrocop]

Oh to actually be able to fit in my wife's clothes. :-(

[Sqad]

\\\\\He then explained that both marriages were fine, until his wives came home unexpectedly and found him wearing their clothes !\\\

Yeah! mikey....wives can be so un reasonable at times.

I am just going to slip on my new Karl Lagerfeld dress and get off to my Club for a couple of hours. This bra is bloody killing me.

[gness]

Prudie......to post because you don't understand....would like to try to understand and have, on the site, someone who can perhaps help us understand is fine surely, and would not be classed as being a bigot.

To post as Sqad did at 11.04 is wrong.

[pixie374]

You need a D cup, sqad ;-)

[Togo]

//I saw Grayson Perry talk somewhere and he discussed the crossdressing as a form of theatre, subversion, - and enjoying the attention.
But then, you know what these potters are like! //

Crikey inside information. Who could it be? Nails? ah? Tilly? stuey?. Just off out for a walk in the sun......now will it be a rather nice Harris tweed jacket or a summer frock?

[pixie374]

I agree, gness. I did that on the transgender thread, asking because I was trying to understand better. It's not the same as just saying it's wrong.

[mikey4444]

LOL Sqad !

Reminds me of the old joke about 2 chaps sitting in the Pub.

One says to the other that he is going to rip his sisters knickers off when he get home....because they are killing him, being too tight !