How Should I React?

[sarahlynn]

Hi, I have a question on how I should encounter this problem (I know it's a small thing but I don't want to overreact). My friend and I really want to celebrate the New Year's Eve together (we are 19), however, to this day she always spent it with her family and so did I. My family goes away for the day and so I really need her to answer it 100% because if she couldn't come at the last minute, I would be celebrating the day alone (which I extremely wouldn't want to). However, when I told her I would need her to (not now, but later) answer me surely, she didn't care and just said she couldn't tell me, as her family always decides everything last minute. So I told her i didn't want to spend the Eve alone and she just said she doesn't know how to explain it to me any further, and that she can't give me a clear answer. How should I react? I'm very annoyed, but she would get mad if I tried to ask her to give me a definite answer. I'm not sure who I would be celebrating the New Year's Eve with if not with her - she's my closest friend and my family celebrates it with their friends. Thanks.

[maggiebee]

Spend New Year's Eve with your family as you always have done. Maybe your friend really wants to be with her family, hence her hesitation.

[Ringlet]

I don't think you can push your friend to give you an answer. It is a bit unfair of her to keep you hanging on, but it seems as if she can't do anything about it.
If you have an alternative possibility that would be definite (eg spending the day with your family) I think you should go for that, rather than risk being left high and dry to spend the day alone.
Your alternative may not be your first choice to spend the day with, but if you really don't want to be alone, it is better than being alone.

[sarahlynn]

Hi, thank you for the answers, I wasn't that clear about the situation with my parents - I used to celebrate with them because it used to be a big group with their friends and their children (which were my friends and I could talk to them) - this year there are no children coming though, so it would be just me, my parents and their friends, which would be, to be honest, kind of embarrassing.

[davebro]

Are there other friends you could party with? Then your special friend could join in if available.

[ToraToraTora]

I don't think she's your friend.

[William51]

Are you expecting too much of her to make a commitment to you when she cannot because of her family?. You will have to wait until she knows her plans. Make contingency plans incase you end up on your own at home, in which case have a cosy xmas lunch in or go out to a hotel or pub.