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Should I Ghost My 'Friend' Now
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I got a late Christmas card earlier this week with written problems in it. She hasn't asked how I am in her letter with the card, but enclosed a long essay of all her problems. She has a massive family where with me, it's just me and my daughter. She has always had a husband and a big family and I have not and I have also struggled in life and this 'friend' knows this.
I'll feel guilty if I don't reply to her, but I don't want to. Is it OK to ignore it? I want to move on from her now. We hardly see each other anyway year in, year out. She hasn't even asked if my daughter and I have been OK during COVID and has assumed we're both OK.
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Personally, if I received a Christmas card in February I wouldn't bother to answer. The late card is just a cover for what she actually wants, to let you know of her problems without bothering to enquire if you are well.
10:01 Wed 16th Feb 2022
Ask yourself - how would you feel if you woke up tomorrow to the news that this friend had taken her life because she thought nobody cared.
If you think this would upset you, then you should reply to her message.
You don't know what was going on in her life to prevent her from contacting you over Christmas, or sending you a card. Maybe she has no one else to turn to, except you.
Do you really want to turn your back on her altogether.
I think if i were you I would send a non-committal reply - acknowledge her message, thank her for thinking of you and tell her you are pleased to hear from her.
Don't comment on her specific problems - leave it general.
But I think for your own peace of mind you need to leave the channel of communication open.
If you think this would upset you, then you should reply to her message.
You don't know what was going on in her life to prevent her from contacting you over Christmas, or sending you a card. Maybe she has no one else to turn to, except you.
Do you really want to turn your back on her altogether.
I think if i were you I would send a non-committal reply - acknowledge her message, thank her for thinking of you and tell her you are pleased to hear from her.
Don't comment on her specific problems - leave it general.
But I think for your own peace of mind you need to leave the channel of communication open.