OK for a bridesmaid to change outfit?

[Alixw]

Hi,

I'm one of 4 bridesmaids at my friend's wedding in a few weeks. A few months back i bought the most gorgeous dress that I am desperate to wear! It's one of those dresses where you buy it because you MUST HAVE IT but it never really gets worn! It's not the sort ot dress to wear on a nught out clubbing, but is perfect for a wedding! So...if i wasn't bridesmaid, I would soooo be wearing my dress! My question is - is it ok for a bridesmaid to change out of her dress for the evening reception?! Also, what if none of the other bridesmaids change? I guess that means I can't either?!

Thanks for any help!!

[topogigo]

I think you are worrying too much, wear what you want when you want.

[Surreylass]

stop being a selfish cow. it isnt your day !

that dress has been brought for you for the day; nobody else will change. Your part of the bridal party and wear the outfit chosen for you.

[Xiomara]

I was at a wedding over the weekend and the bridesmaid changed after the first dance had been done. She was the only bridesmaid though.

[Psychick]

As you are one of four bridesmaids, I dont think you should get changed unless all four of agree to. If only you change, you wont look part of the wedding party, just anohter guest. I think youll find even the bride will stay in her dress all evening......should you really be different just because you have a pretty dress to wear?

There will be other occassions on which to wear it.

[IggyB]

if the bride get changed out of her dress into something more comfortable for the evening do then you should of course to the same but if not then it could be a bit iffy as she might like you to stay looking like the bridesmaid for the photos etc

[Octavius]

I agree with Surreylass, wear wht you are given or don't be a bridesmaid. It is an honour you should accept virtuously.

[Alixw]

Thanks for all your answers,

Surreylass, i dont think there was any need to be so rude. Maybe I worded the question wrongly, but I just wanted to know whether it happens or not, or if it's ok to change out of a bridesmaid's dress as a lot of brides do it.

Of course I know it is an honour and would never do anything to annoy my friend on her wedding day!!!

[China Doll]

Ask the bride.

[dot.hawkes]

As long as the wedding party is there to great all the guests for the evening do, I cannot see a problem with you changing, often if there are smaller briodesmaids it is cute to let them keep their bridesmaids frocks on all nite, but if there is alot of alcohol and dancing and falling off tables, a change of dress would be in order.
We had a lady in last week who was a bridesmaid at a wedding where every bridesmaid had the same style of dress but each one was wearing a different coloured version, they were all really bright colours too, and all were wearing silver sandals with them. it sounded wierd but then she told us the bride was wearing purple and so it probably looked quite good! I love the wedding season, it brings out all sorts!

[Goodsoulette]

I say no to most bridesmaids duties unless polkadots are involved. I would say changing out of it, its a big no though. I recently bought a new dress that I must have with new bed money...oops

[claireybear]

A couple of years ago I was bridesmaid twice for my best mate and for my brother. When my best mate got married we all got changed, including bride, later on for the evening do. With my brothers wedding I did the same and so did the other bridesmaid but the bride did not.

I think you need to wait and see what happens, it is often more comfortable to be able to wear your own thing later on. At the end of the day you may have been wearing that since mid-day and if it is warm you might be glad to wear something more cool, I know I was. The bride on the other hand would probably rather keep her dress on as it is a special day and it is nice for guests coming later on to see her in all her finery!!

However I do think it is worth while checking with the bride and the other bridesmaids, chances are she will only want you to be happy and comfortable. Besides you may be past caring what you are wearing at 7 o'clock in the evening!

[Reverandfunk]

I DJ and tis the seasons for weddings and the last two I have worked at the bride and bridesmaids changed out of their outfits after about an hour of the evening.

I would just ask the bride to be and other bridesmaids wjat they are doing, if the bride says change then you all can if she says not then you don't. Easy really lol.

[Alixw]

I will ask the bride and the other bridesmaids what they are going to do.

I'm sure she'll want to change out of the dress at some point, its absolutely huge!!!

Thank you everyone for your help.

[enigma]

Assuming that you haven't paid for the bridesmaid's dress and the bride has paid for it, she may be quite hurt that you don't want to wear it for very long on her big day and would rather ditch the dress at the first opportunity. I guess that it all comes down to personal choice but I wore my dress for the full day and evening - as did my bridesmaids - as I figured that as my hubby and and I had spent so much money paying for this one day, we were going to milk it for all it was worth ! Seriously though, you only get one shot at wearing 'the big white dress' (unless you are a serial bride) so it seems silly to change out of it as soon as the reception starts. It's what makes her stand out as the bride on her special day and similarly, what identifies you as part of her bridal party by wearing that dress. It's only for one night and as has already been said to you, you will get plenty of opportunities to wear your other dress to something else. If you want to test the water though to guage her reaction, you could drop hints by saying something like ' How do you think you will manage in that big dress all night? Will you be changing into something more comfortable later?' If she is adamant that she will not be changing as she wants everything to be perfect for her big day, then personally, I wouldn't change, I would respect her wishes as it is her big day after all.

[jno]

ask the bride, but don't make it sound like 'How long do I have to wear this thing until I can change into something I really like?' Make it more along the lines of 'Should I bring something to change into later in the day once the joint is jumping so the bridesmaid dress won't get dirty?'

[leighkaty]

hi alixw, i was a bridesmaid for a friend and i bought my own dress (we all did) we had to wear hair and makeup the same which i wasnt chuffed about but went along with as it was my friends day, however at the night time i changed my hairstyle to something i felt more comfortable with i did take an outfit to change into also but as the others werent changing i decided not to. as for your new dress seeing as you already have an outfit for the wedding party i.e your bridesmaid dress id save your new dress for an occasion were your stuck for something to wear .and surreylass think your answer was a bit rude