If you were single and saw someone you really like

[Oneeyedvic]

but they were in a relationship, would you

a) Bow out completely
b) Give signals to make it known that you were interested but do nothing more
c) Give very overt signals to ensure that the other person knew
d) Do everything in your power to get that person.

Just curious.

[cazzz1975]

a) bow out completely.

[cazzz1975]

If I had done b,c and d and managed to ensnare him I would then be in the position of wondering whether I could trust him...

[No,Knowledge]

b

[albaqwerty]

a: bow out completely

but I can't remember being single....

[daffy654]

definitely a)

[Oneeyedvic]

ah cazz, but you don't know if he/she is in a 'happy' relationship or even coming to the end of a relationship.

[ELVIS68]

d, then b

[sara3]

gosh, I can't remember not being single!

a or b, not sure, but wouldn't want to be reposonsible for someone else's misery.. so probably a.

[ELVIS68]

soz, d then a

[cazzz1975]

well it would depend, a lot of blokes will say that their wives/GFs are horrible people who reject their love just to get you into bed, the hard luck story is always a winner, most of the time these blokes are in an okay relationship normally still having sex with the wife.

if he was truly in an unhappy relationship I would prefer to see him split up independently from that relationship without the promise of someone in the wings

[sn�gs]

What is wrong with suggesting a threesome?

Problem solved :-)

[sara3]

but men don't generally do that.

seriously.. how many men end a relationship without having someone else on the go? or at least plans afoot..

[jake-the-peg]

or

e) bow out and then beat yourself up about it for years after someone else ran off with them ?

[No,Knowledge]

snags you could post that answer on Louise's thread too.

[cazzz1975]

always looking over their shoulder in case he runs off with someone else jake :d

[sn�gs]

''seriously.. how many men end a relationship without having someone else on the go? or at least plans afoot..''

Sadly I did last month. Hence my now heavily stocked bread bin :-(

[sara3]

yes, but you've been an email sex pest ever since.

[sn�gs]

''yes, but you've been an email sex pest ever since.''

Ahhh... I wondered who '[email protected]' was...

[jake-the-peg]

I think sara shows a lot of insight here.

A lot of men do go from one relationship straight to another - (so do some women).

Suppose you knew the person was unhappy and wanted a long term realtionship not just a fling - what then?

Personally (and some may remember from a past thread) My mother was very unhappy with my father. She had an affair and left him when my sister and I left school.

She eventually married him - they have been together 20 years now.

I'm pretty sure they have been the best 20 years of her life.

My father never remarried.

If I don't see this in black and white the way many here do perhaps you can see why