I said to myself I won't come back to this thread, however, vulcan wants to know how a question can be sadistic;
On December 21st 1988 John Mosley drove his daughter Helga to the airport for her to join PanAm 103 to New York. He returned home to his family where they learnt that it had crashed on Lockerbie killing everyone on board. When the first reporters got to his door he was asked "You're a Christian minister" (Moseley is a Pentecostal priest) "Hasn't this destroyed your faith?" Just 24 hours after hearing the news he replied, "So far the grace of God has been more real than we ever dared believe." You might have thought he would have resented being asked such a blunt and troubling question. But now he's grateful. He believes it forced him to rationalise what he was feeling, and to find a form of words to express it. He said " The moment when you encapsulate what's happened in words, it becomes more real."
You may not know what he meant, I'm not even sure I know what he meant, but he knew what he meant. So scoff on!