Naomi
//since I’m not made in this God’s vindictive and spiteful, image//
God is not spiteful and despite your protestations you ARE made in God's image. Otherwise you would indeed be spiteful and evil and wicked etc.etc. God is Love and mankind was created in his image - this means every human has the potential to be wise, just, powerful and love. If you deny this then you are denying your existence.
// Whilst Jesus is claimed by many to be God’s only son, if we are to believe the bible, that isn’t true at all. God had other sons long before Jesus arrived on the scene. Curiouser and curiouser.//
I thought you said you had read and studied the Bible. Obviously not deep enough. Jesus was the first born, and only begotten son. Yes, God had other sons, (Adam and the other angels) but first and foremost was Jesus Christ. He was with God when he created all other things.