In all honesty, yes, I would have been hurt. Encompassing many of the previous comments, I too have had cancer (grade 3 breast cancer). I am single and have parents who are not given to being supportive. I also have a friend who is so negative in all aspects of her life that it's a wonder that I have stuck around. She is extremely draining emotionally. Your friend is obviously very down at the moment. I wasn't. I made sure that I didn't see too much of this negative friend as I didn't want her to drag me down. As much as she is a friend and needs support, you will obviously never change her general attitude to life. I gather that she's like this when she is well. I really think that you ought to assess the "friendship" as a whole, and not just be her friend Because you feel sorry for her.