Is Mom Overreacting Or Was I Rude?

[Happyhippie22]

I went to a science show with my son *Bob(7yrs) daughter *Cindy(2yrs) my mom (48), sister *Linda(15) and brother *Tom(13).(im 27) We were having a good time until Cindy started screaming until she was red in the face, even a staff member told me to leave. So I went out to the parking lot for 15 min, called mom to tell her we need to leave because Cindy is still screaming and people are now looking at me like im kidnapping her. Mom comes out and tries to take Cindy back inside but I said no we got kicked out and im not even in the mood to stay. As we're getting in the car my mom tells Linda she should have just stayed home, she didn't even want to come anyways, no one did. Then goes on to say next time she's only bringing who she KNOWS wants to go and "it looks like it will just be me, Bob and Tom!" So I turned to her and said "don't make me feel bad that I have to leave because Cindy is crying and ur being rude to Linda" Then she says the kids dad didn't NEED to go anywhere and should have watched Cindy. I made the choice to bring both kids and said I felt pretty obligated to go when she asked me 3 times last night. Well she didnt like any of that and said "I just love how everything turns out to be my fault" I got really upset and said "yeah mom keep that up, you turn everything around so that its YOUR fault" I calmly told her what she said and implied was rude and negative comments are unnecessary. So at 10pm, Dad found her "sleeping" in the back of the van! What the hell?

[douglas9401]

To be honest I'd just toss a coin and go with that.

[DTCwordfan]

Heads or Tails, Doug?

[Old_Geezer]

Sounds like a daft family squabble to me. Does it really matter who takes blame ? Probably over by the time you read this but if not, let the more mature one say, "Sorry", then put it in the past.

[Islay]

Sounds like your as bad as each other! Either go out again as a family or don't.

[ummmm]

You really argue about such trivia?

[Happyhippie22]

Lol doesn't it seem so stupid? Im just tired of my mom saying rude *** to me and my family memebers. And yes it matters whos fault it is. Because my mom has held onto this for 3 days now

[douglas9401]

And of course you're letting it go, obviously.

[woofgang]

I just want to tell you and your mother to grow up

[Mamyalynne]

Typical family outing fodder really when all age groups are present - it will blow over.

[Happyhippie22]

So ur advice is to let it go, and then what? My mom sleeps in the again lol? I told her not to make rude comments, and thats how she reacted. So im asking what to do about it, and in the future..?

[kvalidir]

Okay for what it's worth coming from a large and argumentative family myself, I think it's probably like this:-
You Mum wanted to go. It's no fun doing things on your own so she hoped that people she loved wanted to go too, and maybe cajoled them a bit more than some of them would like. To keep the peace you all went. You chose to take a smallish and therefore uncontrollable baby, and that inadvertently triggered a series of events that ruined her idea of how she wanted her fun evening to turn out. She got upset because you insisted on going and things were said and you then let the bomb drop that you didn't really want to be there ( and I imagine Linda didn't either because of what your Mum said to her). this has left your Mum feeling as though she was humoured, as though you didn't want to be there and consequently she feels disappointed and hurt. Go and make it up with her, life is too short (and no I don't think it's necessarily your fault, I just think it's one of those family things- we can argue to Olympic standard over NOTHING in our family) to harbour resentment over petty squabbles.

[yogi-bear]

A corker of a first question, Happy....I would suck eggs and make it up to Mum...and maybe take Cindy(2yrs) to see a Peppa Pig show next time :-)