residency orders

[terri-ann]

my daughter was placed with her father for a max of 3 weeks as my partner was under investigation by social services it has been proved that he is not a risk to any children so i asked the police to help me get my daughter home on the 4/7/06 and they said untill the social services tell them that my daughter can come home there is nothing that they can do for me.
i need to know if there is anything else that i can do other than go back to court as my ex partner refuses to let me have her back and i have to wait before the police get involved again

[willspal]

I think the best way to get your daughter back is to get rid of your partner for good.

Sorry you might think I am out of order for saying that but who is more important. If I was in your position and I had the S/S sniffing round a partner of mine he would have to go. Maybe he is not a danger to any children but the fact that anyone thought he might be........... well good enough for me to say 'Good bye'

WP

[terri-ann]

at the end of the day i have two little girls by the the partner that i am with an 11 month old and a 3week old how do u expect me to get rid if he hasnt done anything wrong and he has his girls that that live with me i really dont know what to do for the best at the moment but i know that i want my daughter home

[willspal]

Well I don't know what you can do then. I do worry about people saying a man is investaged by S/S where children are concerned but he has not done anything wrong. S/S don't just pick people's names out of a book and investigate them. I know I don't know the full story and maybe just maybe its all innocent but it still worries me.

Maybe time will get your daughter back and you will just have to sit it out and wait until everything has been resolved. I guess the Police have to act on the say so of the S/S.

Alarm bells would be ringing in my head and I honestly don't know how you are going to forget all this and have 100% trust in your partner. I know it would kill everything I had with my husband if this happened to us as I could never be totally happy again.

I hope you get a happy outcome I really do.

WP

[kazza12345]

surely you would have to get a residency order? or get social services to tell the police to let your daughter come hiome

[terri-ann]

i have a resideny order

[kazza12345]

but surely it must have been revoked when social services took her away into her fathers care?

[terri-ann]

no cause there was no court order from ss for it to b revoked ive looked it all up

[shivvy]

I am confused - is there a residency order or not terri-ann?
If so, who does it state that the child has to live with? If not, why can you not share care of your child?

[PinkFizz]

why was your partner under investigation from social services??

[terri-ann]

i do have a residence order statein that she is to live with me and i cant say what he was under investigation for

[PinkFizz]

well it's very hard for anybody on here to give you a helpful answer without knowing the full story.By the sounds of it he has been accused of something(rightly or wrongly) and so your ex is obviously not going to just hand your daughter back that easily.

[Pippa68]

I agree with Pink ~ it's very difficult to answer without the facts.

Mr Pippas ex wife (a vindictive so & so) accused him of sexually abusing their 2 year old daughter as she didn't want him to have any contact (she was under investigation for alcohol abuse, and rightly so). He didn't have any contact with his daughter for 2 months, but after being interviewed and his daughter physically examined his ex wife was ordered through the courts to allow contact.

Any accusation is taken seriously and therefore has to be resolved through the proper channels.

[PinkFizz]

Pippa is right(hello Pipps again!!)
There have been too many instances in the past where Social Services have ignored complaints,with dreadful results,and so now they have to investigae any report or claim,no matter now trivial,or possibly made up.

[PinkFizz]

this thread ended quickly!!